Re: The Mike O'Meara Show
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Date: September 27, 2013 11:39AM
Sad Listener Wrote:
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> The post quoted below is absolutely spot in
> regarding Mike and the true severity of his
> alcoholism. One thing I would add with respect to
> Robb and Oscar (while I agree they are enabling
> Mike's alcoholic behavior) is that they are both
> alcoholic themselves. All the signs are there (I
> won't go into it). Everyone in that room needs to
> stop laughing and making a joke out of it. It's
> not funny. It's really quite sad.
>
> "If, when you honestly want to [stop drinking],
> you find that you cannot quit entirely, or when if
> drinking, you have little control over the amount
> you take, you are probably alcoholic."
>
> Mike, Oscar, and Robb, I know you read this board.
> If that quote above resonates, please consider
> taking a serious look at the issue and think about
> getting help. It is not the 50s, 60s, 70s...
> There is no shame anymore in accepting addiction,
> rehab, recovery, or sobriety. The first step is
> the hardest.
>
>
> OaktonWhineShop Wrote:
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> > Fan since 106.7 Wrote:
> >
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>
> > -----
> >
> > > Somebody has to tell Mike about this Facebook
> > > obsession.
> >
> > I've said in the past on these forums that the
> two
> > best things Mike could do for himself and his
> show
> > would be to 1) take a Facebook break (or quit
> it
> > altogether), and 2) get into recovery. Get
> sober.
> >
> >
> > I imagine Mike would respond to the first
> > suggestion by saying that he needs to be on
> > Facebook, because it's how he "keeps his finger
> on
> > the pulse" of his listening audience.
> >
> > I imagine he would respond to the second
> > suggestion by stating that, while he obviously
> > enjoys alcohol and occasionally overindulges,
> he's
> > clearly not an alcoholic, because he doesn't
> drink
> > every day, doesn't drink around his baby,
> doesn't
> > drive drunk, and otherwise doesn't (by his
> > estimation) fit the stereotype of an alcoholic.
> > (And I'd even give him the benefit of the doubt
> > and assume all that would be factually correct,
> > despite being the very typical litany of the
> > alcoholic in denial-- they love bolstering
> their
> > case with numbers. "I'm not an alcoholic because
> I
> > only get drunk X many times a month," etc. The
> > alcoholic-in-denial Stat Rundown is such a
> curious
> > phenomenon.)
> >
> > I'd respond to his assertion that he needs
> > Facebook to connect to his listening audience
> by
> > asking him to consider whether the benefit he
> gets
> > from it, in terms of "connecting to his
> audience,"
> > honestly outweighs the compulsive, addictive
> > behavior it seems to evoke in him. Mike, your
> > Facebook use prompts you to read Facebook posts
> > verbatim on the show, make Facebook a major
> topic
> > for multiple show segments, and exposes you to
> > toxic attitudes and comments that make you
> furious
> > and on a semi-regular basis...yes, this may be
> a
> > matter of opinion, but really: is your Facebook
> > use actually making the show better? Or is it
> just
> > something you enjoy, and want to keep doing
> with
> > your time?
> >
> > I'd respond to his assertion that he's not an
> > alcoholic, at least by the numbers, by telling
> him
> > the truth: that it's not about numbers. It's
> about
> > a larger problem with managing your feelings
> and
> > your life...and that any alcoholic in recovery
> > will tell you that "dry drunks" (i.e,
> alcoholics
> > who aren't stewed to the gills every second of
> the
> > day) are often the sickest.
> >
> > Mike, you collect military coins and motorcycle
> > club patches. I get it, you're into that stuff,
> > and God bless ya. But here's the thing: while
> many
> > of those coins and patches were gifts, they're
> not
> > particularly impressive (or interesting, for
> that
> > matter), because you didn't earn them. When you
> > put on your motorcycle "cut," you're
> fetishizing
> > that subculture-- which is fine, have at it.
> But
> > you're only a peripheral part of those
> > "brotherhoods." A fan. An enthusiast. But you
> know
> > what kind of coin would be impressive (and, not
> > coincidentally, honestly interesting to hear
> about
> > on the show)? Any kind of coin you'd receive at
> an
> > AA meeting-- from a 24-hour sober chip on up.
> > That, you would have earned. And that, you
> could
> > brandish with legitimacy and self-respect-- and
> > only the douchebaggiest of douchebags would
> roll
> > their eyes at it.
> >
> > And speaking of...Robb. Hi. If you've read my
> > posts, you know I've defended you here. I don't
> > think you're a bad guy, though I don't know
> you.
> > You know what, though? When Mike tells a story
> > about having "had a weekend" because of his
> > drinking, or tries to make a joke about "going
> to
> > the dark side" when he's drinking, and you egg
> him
> > on as if his drinking is one of the funniest
> > things ever? You're being a really, really
> shitty
> > friend in those moments. It's not funny when an
> > alcoholic announces his desire to quit
> drinking,
> > and you turn to Oscar and start laying odds on
> > when he's going to give in-- it's mean. For
> better
> > or worse, Mike's given you opportunities you
> never
> > had with Don-- and repaying him by enabling his
> > behavior really, really sucks, man.
> >
> > I don't even know what to say about Oscar-- he
> > openly thinks it's one of the funniest things
> ever
> > when Mike is drinking ("Drunk Mike is a TEN!
> TWO
> > THUMBS UP!"). Oscar, you do get that Mike's
> > alcohol use probably contributes significantly
> to
> > that emotional dysregulation that you find so
> > upsetting, right? Not to mention that it
> probably
> > contributed significantly to his divorce, and
> > financial problems, right? And that it's
> probably
> > contributed significantly to his health
> problems,
> > right? Because if you get all that, I'm sure
> you
> > can understand how it's a real dick thing to
> > encourage him to keep on boozing. I know your
> > shtick is all about being an "instigator," but
> > this isn't a fucking game. Mike's addictions
> > really will kill him. And you really will have
> to
> > look back on podcasts where you reinforced his
> > identity as a fun drunk.
> >
> > Fuck. I've written another book-length post.
> > Sorry, guys. But, even amongst all the fun we
> have
> > knocking TMOS around, it's fucking painful to
> see
> > an addict who has already lost so much get
> > enabled, in both his substance abuse and his
> > addictive online behavior, by his supposed
> > "friends." Especially when help is so readily
> > available-- one day at a time.
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