Anyone ever heard of a divorce decree being overturn or changed in Fairfax County after signatures? Husband signed because he wanted away and out so bad and evil, lazy, filthy rich x-wife continues to nickle and dime my husband. We don't make very much money and can't afford to pay an attorney

are we stuck Wrote:
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> Anyone ever heard of a divorce decree being
> overturn or changed in Fairfax County after
> signatures? Husband signed because he wanted away
> and out so bad and evil, lazy, filthy rich x-wife
> continues to nickle and dime my husband. We don't
> make very much money and can't afford to pay an
> attorney

That's stupid.

I am assuming this is child-support related, how exactly is the ex-wife demanding more money than what the divorce decree stipulated? "Nickle and dime" means she is demanding other money, if that is the case the divorce decree should be your husband's friend and he can refuse to pay those things not stipulated. What are we talking about here?

justsayin Wrote:
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> I am assuming this is child-support related, how
> exactly is the ex-wife demanding more money than
> what the divorce decree stipulated? "Nickle and
> dime" means she is demanding other money, if that
> is the case the divorce decree should be your
> husband's friend and he can refuse to pay those
> things not stipulated. What are we talking about
> here?


It sounds like shes saying that at the time they could afford to pay the child support but now dont make enough money. And in such a case if the other party wont agree to concessions its not going to get lowered most likely

I didn't get that from the post. You have to assume a lot of time has passed for the guy to leave the wife/family, go through and finalize the divorce, and get remarried. Like I said above, "nickle and dime" doesn't mean the court-ordered child support payment, it means something else.

Unless this new wife thinks paying the court-ordered amount is nickle and diming, in which case she needs to change the terms to what they mean. Hard to know without more info.

edit: OP said they can't afford to pay the attorney, not the amounts in question.



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 03/07/2012 06:23PM by justsayin.

exactly the case

justsayin Wrote:
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> I didn't get that from the post. You have to
> assume a lot of time has passed for the guy to
> leave the wife/family, go through and finalize the
> divorce, and get remarried. Like I said above,
> "nickle and dime" doesn't mean the court-ordered
> child support payment, it means something else.
>
> Unless this new wife thinks paying the
> court-ordered amount is nickle and diming, in
> which case she needs to change the terms to what
> they mean. Hard to know without more info.
>
> edit: OP said they can't afford to pay the
> attorney, not the amounts in question.

I dont think its much of a stretch to assume that if you cant afford an attorney you cant afford to make payments.

If he signed fast just to get out chances are he ended up with an amount higher than it should have been and now its caught up to him since he is remarried and not just supporting himself but others as well.

Could be wrong and only the OP can tell us but thats just what I assumed they ment

Next time he thinks about cheating on his wife, tell him to hire a hooker. Pay once and done.

cant afford Wrote:
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> If he signed fast just to get out chances are he
> ended up with an amount higher than it should have
> been and now its caught up to him since he is
> remarried and not just supporting himself but
> others as well.

I guess so, but say one year passes during divorce, another year to marry next one, another year to have new kid, that's at least three years. If one could afford it up until now I think it's more a case of the new wife not wanting "her" money to go to the ex and a lot less of "we can't afford it."

Often "can't afford" really means "don't want to pay". Just sayin'. That's why it would be nice to get clarification from the original poster instead of guessing what was meant.

justsayin Wrote:

> I guess so, but say one year passes during
> divorce, another year to marry next one, another
> year to have new kid, that's at least three years.
> If one could afford it up until now I think it's
> more a case of the new wife not wanting "her"
> money to go to the ex and a lot less of "we can't
> afford it."
>
> Often "can't afford" really means "don't want to
> pay". Just sayin'. That's why it would be nice
> to get clarification from the original poster
> instead of guessing what was meant.


Its true that some people do say that just because they dont want to.

But it also makes sense that they may in fact not be able too.

Say your paying a high rate when you get divorced. Youre single, it sucks but you can make the payments. Then you get married and can still make the payment but its tight. Then you have a child and the small buffer margin you had is now gone with the new expenses.

Of course if they respond were never going to know and are just speaking in hypotheticals.

You just listed all the ingredients for a made-to-order, self-inflicted shit sandwich. And those choices don't mean the ex shouldn't get needed child support the father signed and agreed to. Decisions have consequences and the original poster gave a vague picture of one side of the story. Nickle and dime could mean the kid needs braces, or a copay on a medical bill paid.

Who knows. Let's face it, it is much more likely the payments for an underemployed deadbeat are now coming out of the new wife than some innocent "it just caught up to me" puppy-eyed circumstance.

justsayin Wrote:
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> You just listed all the ingredients for a
> made-to-order, self-inflicted shit sandwich. And
> those choices don't mean the ex shouldn't get
> needed child support the father signed and agreed
> to. Decisions have consequences and the original
> poster gave a vague picture of one side of the
> story. Nickle and dime could mean the kid needs
> braces, or a copay on a medical bill paid.
>
> Who knows. Let's face it, it is much more likely
> the payments for an underemployed deadbeat are now
> coming out of the new wife than some innocent "it
> just caught up to me" puppy-eyed circumstance.


Im not advocating that she shouldnt get needed child support because he started a new family but often times the child support number is much higher than what is actually needed to take care of the kid and includes allowing the mother to live a pretty well off lifestyle off of it as well. Most people have no problem paying for something for the kid but if they think the mom is just using it on herself then they have a problem with it.

I do agree its stupid to sign anything just for the sake of getting out of something. Again all we can do is speculate and the OP seems to have been a troll but at least a decently interesting discussion came out of it for once.

The original post reminds me of a homeowner who decides to "fix" his "simple" plumbing problem himself on a Sunday and then complains once he botches the job that he can't afford to hire a plumber to come out and fix his much bigger problem. Meanwhile his basement is filling up with water.

To the OP, the solution is simple. FIND THE MONEY TO HIRE A VERY GOOD DIVORCE LAWYER. If your husband is going to be able to pull this off, he is in all likelihood going to need to hire a good divorce lawyer anyways.

are we stuck Wrote:
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> Anyone ever heard of a divorce decree being
> overturn or changed in Fairfax County after
> signatures? Husband signed because he wanted away
> and out so bad and evil, lazy, filthy rich x-wife
> continues to nickle and dime my husband. We don't
> make very much money and can't afford to pay an
> attorney

Was it the property settlement agreement and not child support related?

Wake up! You cannot afford to NOT have a lawyer involved in something like this.

I suggest you get on the pill. You are stupid whore. You stole this women's husband and now you want to deny his kids their child support. His kids should come first. NOT YOU! I bet in another year he will leave your ass. Karma is a bitch.

hey lady Wrote:
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> I suggest you get on the pill. You are stupid
> whore. You stole this women's husband and now you
> want to deny his kids their child support. His
> kids should come first. NOT YOU! I bet in another
> year he will leave your ass. Karma is a bitch.


Most likely the truth.

Honestly it will mostly likely not happen. Fairfax County Courts VERY RARELY award people who go back on PSA's and try to make changes.

Your best bet is to try to settle before waisting 30k to 40k and going into a trial. The only one's who make out there is the lawyers.

If she's as filthy rich as you say then he should be the same. VA is a 50 / 50 state unless he cheated.They both should have walked away with something.

The problem is making sure the kids get what they need and that they are taken care of. Divorce takes a toll on children and having them not get the money they need to live or the way they used to live before the divorce is not fair for them.

If you were the one he cheated with and you have children now, think about what you would do in that situation.

And remember once a cheater always a cheater.