Re: My granddaughter is going to be born in prison!
Posted by:
Tough Call
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Date: February 16, 2019 04:06PM
get to a meeting Wrote:
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> advice grape Wrote:
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> > OP you were clearly a shitty father. Let him
> move
> > in, its the least you can do after being a
> shitty
> > father. Now fuck off!
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> nonsense no one is entirely in control of how
> their kids turn out. My kids are in HS and are
> doing great but lets be real, if they fall in with
> the wrong crowd and get into prescription drugs or
> alcohol all bets are off.
>
> OP if your son is clean and doesnt drink or gamble
> I say give him a year to get his shit together.
> Buy materials and make him finish the basement.
> Ask him to pay a modest rent and put it in the
> bank for him, when he is ready to go give it to
> him. Offer to pay for a trade school like
> plumbing or electric or HVAC.
Great advice, but I’d be concerned that the son would agree to these terms, and then do nothing. Once he’s back in the house, the parents may not be able to get him out.
> If he is an addict or alcoholic dont let him in
> your home.
Again, good advice, but hard to do - especially with a baby.
> 12 step programs and sober living
> houses are available to people willing to live in
> recovery if not ever using. There is no amount of
> money or housing you can give that will save him
> if he is drinking and/or using.
Those programs aren’t free; in fact, they’re hugely expensive. Recovery programs, even with insurance, can easily cost $10k/month. We have to do a better job as a country in dealing with addicts.
Hate to say it, but with these parents the best option is probably to give the child up for adoption. But that probably won’t happen if the kids can find someone to offload their responsibilities on.