I really need somewhere to vent...and I don't have any friends of my own to talk to so I will post here. I have had a tough life. I was raised by abusive, narcissistic parents, and went through trauma that I would never wish on anyone else. At around twenty three, after being held practically hostage by my family, I ran away and started a new life several states away. I met my future husband shortly after while he was volunteering at the homeless shelter I was staying in. A month later, we moved in together. Three months after that, we got married. My husband, whom I will call "Jerry" (not his real name), is a successful surgeon and makes a lot of money, has a nice home, etc. I barely graduated high school, and can't get any jobs above part-time retail level. Despite this, he seems to love me.

My in-laws (his parents, brother, and sister) were not thrilled by me from the get-go. I could tell they thought I was trash by the way they looked at me, and treated me with a certain coldness. They were upper middle class, and were living fruitful lives. Jerry confided in me that they were worried I was a gold digger, and was just using him to "squeeze alimony out of (him)".

During a lunch I shared with his mother, I told her that she didn't need to worry, I loved her son and he is the best friend I ever had. She sneered at me, and responded that I was "looking for more than just friendship". Things never got better. When we got married, it was at a courthouse, by ourselves. I didn't want to invite my family (and they likely wouldn't come anyway) and his refused to attend any wedding between us. I had and still have no real friends, and his were busy at work.

He distanced himself from his family at first, and we settled into a nice married life. I eventually got pregnant, and had a daughter together. At this point, the in-laws wanted back into our lives. I decided to give them a chance, mostly because I want to feel normal and have a nice family life, and I want to provide that to my child as well. In-laws would typically ignore me during visits, doting on my daughter instead. I decided that to live with this. My daughter is now three years old.

Recently, we gathered for a dinner at the in-laws' home, and they invited Jerry's ex-girlfriend over, and began to...force some sort of date between them. Jerry and I were quickly angered by this. I took my daughter, and decided to storm out. My MIL tried to take my daughter out of my arms, shrieking, "YOU CAN GO, BUT MY GRANDDAUGHTER IS STAYING HERE!". At one point, she called me a "jagged toothed slut", prompting my other in-laws and Jerry's ex to laugh, which angered me enough to toss my daughter onto the couch (not a hard throw at least...), and punch my MIL in the face.

I feel ashamed I did this. I never get violent but...her words made me feel so disgusted and worthless, similar to how my own family made me feel. The police came over, and I got arrested for simple assault. MIL was pushing for child endangerment because I tossed my child onto the couch, it didn't happen.

Jerry has been angry at me over both hitting his mother, and throwing our daughter. He wants to separate for a time being, and move in with his family, along with our daughter. I pleaded that he not do that though his mind seems set on it.

I just feel like garbage. I feel like I fucked up my marriage, and maybe even my relationship with my daughter. I don't know what to do, and maybe I do deserve this over my actions. I just have no idea what to do at this point or how to feel.

Hello,

I am not an attorney so this is not legal advice.

If I were you, I would write an e-mail or a letter to your husband truly expressing how you feel and how much him and your daughter mean to you and define you. Try talking to him the phone and how much you are willing to work on making this work. I would also reach out to your family church or pastor and explain how regretful you are and how willing you are to fix this. See if they could talk to him and his family to work with you. Also, try reaching out to the management of the home that he was volunteering. This is what I can think of right now and hope it works out for you. Stay strong and believe in your love, marriage and daughter and trust you can win him over again. Good Luck!

Call the White House, they can use you.

Obvious Moreno assburgers troll post.

Much Assburgers in OP Wrote:
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> Obvious Moreno assburgers troll post.


Moreno was planning on getting married to Monique.

That makes Ruth Wells Moreno's mother-in-law.

Moreno fantasizes about punching Ruth.

Interesting.

would make it one of his more healthy fantasies

I would sue Eesh for 1.4 million dollars.

OP is Miz. Yawn.

Women need to start getting told...
Walk-in round with pussy lips on their heads and stupid shit!

Bitch got out of line then she needs to be put back in!

WHAP!!!! WHAP!!!!!

nomil Wrote:
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> I really need somewhere to vent...and I don't have
> any friends of my own to talk to so I will post
> here. I have had a tough life. I was raised by
> abusive, narcissistic parents, and went through
> trauma that I would never wish on anyone else. At
> around twenty three, after being held practically
> hostage by my family, I ran away and started a new
> life several states away. I met my future husband
> shortly after while he was volunteering at the
> homeless shelter I was staying in. A month later,
> we moved in together. Three months after that, we
> got married. My husband, whom I will call "Jerry"
> (not his real name), is a successful surgeon and
> makes a lot of money, has a nice home, etc. I
> barely graduated high school, and can't get any
> jobs above part-time retail level. Despite this,
> he seems to love me.
>
> My in-laws (his parents, brother, and sister) were
> not thrilled by me from the get-go. I could tell
> they thought I was trash by the way they looked at
> me, and treated me with a certain coldness. They
> were upper middle class, and were living fruitful
> lives. Jerry confided in me that they were worried
> I was a gold digger, and was just using him to
> "squeeze alimony out of (him)".
>
> During a lunch I shared with his mother, I told
> her that she didn't need to worry, I loved her son
> and he is the best friend I ever had. She sneered
> at me, and responded that I was "looking for more
> than just friendship". Things never got better.
> When we got married, it was at a courthouse, by
> ourselves. I didn't want to invite my family (and
> they likely wouldn't come anyway) and his refused
> to attend any wedding between us. I had and still
> have no real friends, and his were busy at work.
>
> He distanced himself from his family at first, and
> we settled into a nice married life. I eventually
> got pregnant, and had a daughter together. At this
> point, the in-laws wanted back into our lives. I
> decided to give them a chance, mostly because I
> want to feel normal and have a nice family life,
> and I want to provide that to my child as well.
> In-laws would typically ignore me during visits,
> doting on my daughter instead. I decided that to
> live with this. My daughter is now three years
> old.
>
> Recently, we gathered for a dinner at the in-laws'
> home, and they invited Jerry's ex-girlfriend over,
> and began to...force some sort of date between
> them. Jerry and I were quickly angered by this. I
> took my daughter, and decided to storm out. My MIL
> tried to take my daughter out of my arms,
> shrieking, "YOU CAN GO, BUT MY GRANDDAUGHTER IS
> STAYING HERE!". At one point, she called me a
> "jagged toothed slut", prompting my other in-laws
> and Jerry's ex to laugh, which angered me enough
> to toss my daughter onto the couch (not a hard
> throw at least...), and punch my MIL in the face.
>
> I feel ashamed I did this. I never get violent
> but...her words made me feel so disgusted and
> worthless, similar to how my own family made me
> feel. The police came over, and I got arrested for
> simple assault. MIL was pushing for child
> endangerment because I tossed my child onto the
> couch, it didn't happen.
>
> Jerry has been angry at me over both hitting his
> mother, and throwing our daughter. He wants to
> separate for a time being, and move in with his
> family, along with our daughter. I pleaded that he
> not do that though his mind seems set on it.
>
> I just feel like garbage. I feel like I fucked up
> my marriage, and maybe even my relationship with
> my daughter. I don't know what to do, and maybe I
> do deserve this over my actions. I just have no
> idea what to do at this point or how to feel.


Tl;Dr


OP is a dumb broad.

Best friend
Attachments:

You chipped tooth ho!
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I hope she punches you back.
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> "he police came over, and I got arrested for simple assault."

settle out of court before it goes forward

you were warned

> Recently, we gathered for a dinner at the in-laws' home, and they invited Jerry's ex-girlfriend over, and began to...force some sort of date between them.

i understand. my family is just as or more vicious - and seeks such tricks practically daily, or really as often as they have opportunity. what they did was provocative. luring you into an intently emotionally harmful situation. theres' simply no excuse.

legally: dating someone on false pretenses HAS led to successful court prosecutions in the past. BUT DONT EVEN THINK IT

judges and lawyers in fairfax are quite corrupt and will never allow you to speak that let alone prove it

it's not a question of whether you are right here

it's a question of "if they put 1 person lower, the rest of them are higher", because if you loose your seat in life they have a political teen waiting to get out and fill it. i'm not kidding.

nomil Wrote:
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> I really need somewhere to vent...and I don't have
> any friends of my own to talk to so I will post
> here. I have had a tough life. I was raised by
> abusive, narcissistic parents, and went through
> trauma that I would never wish on anyone else. At
> around twenty three, after being held practically
> hostage by my family, I ran away and started a new
> life several states away. I met my future husband
> shortly after while he was volunteering at the
> homeless shelter I was staying in. A month later,
> we moved in together. Three months after that, we
> got married. My husband, whom I will call "Jerry"
> (not his real name), is a successful surgeon and
> makes a lot of money, has a nice home, etc. I
> barely graduated high school, and can't get any
> jobs above part-time retail level. Despite this,
> he seems to love me.
>
> My in-laws (his parents, brother, and sister) were
> not thrilled by me from the get-go. I could tell
> they thought I was trash by the way they looked at
> me, and treated me with a certain coldness. They
> were upper middle class, and were living fruitful
> lives. Jerry confided in me that they were worried
> I was a gold digger, and was just using him to
> "squeeze alimony out of (him)".
>
> During a lunch I shared with his mother, I told
> her that she didn't need to worry, I loved her son
> and he is the best friend I ever had. She sneered
> at me, and responded that I was "looking for more
> than just friendship". Things never got better.
> When we got married, it was at a courthouse, by
> ourselves. I didn't want to invite my family (and
> they likely wouldn't come anyway) and his refused
> to attend any wedding between us. I had and still
> have no real friends, and his were busy at work.
>
> He distanced himself from his family at first, and
> we settled into a nice married life. I eventually
> got pregnant, and had a daughter together. At this
> point, the in-laws wanted back into our lives. I
> decided to give them a chance, mostly because I
> want to feel normal and have a nice family life,
> and I want to provide that to my child as well.
> In-laws would typically ignore me during visits,
> doting on my daughter instead. I decided that to
> live with this. My daughter is now three years
> old.
>
> Recently, we gathered for a dinner at the in-laws'
> home, and they invited Jerry's ex-girlfriend over,
> and began to...force some sort of date between
> them. Jerry and I were quickly angered by this. I
> took my daughter, and decided to storm out. My MIL
> tried to take my daughter out of my arms,
> shrieking, "YOU CAN GO, BUT MY GRANDDAUGHTER IS
> STAYING HERE!". At one point, she called me a
> "jagged toothed slut", prompting my other in-laws
> and Jerry's ex to laugh, which angered me enough
> to toss my daughter onto the couch (not a hard
> throw at least...), and punch my MIL in the face.
>
> I feel ashamed I did this. I never get violent
> but...her words made me feel so disgusted and
> worthless, similar to how my own family made me
> feel. The police came over, and I got arrested for
> simple assault. MIL was pushing for child
> endangerment because I tossed my child onto the
> couch, it didn't happen.
>
> Jerry has been angry at me over both hitting his
> mother, and throwing our daughter. He wants to
> separate for a time being, and move in with his
> family, along with our daughter. I pleaded that he
> not do that though his mind seems set on it.
>
> I just feel like garbage. I feel like I fucked up
> my marriage, and maybe even my relationship with
> my daughter. I don't know what to do, and maybe I
> do deserve this over my actions. I just have no
> idea what to do at this point or how to feel.


Pretending to be a woman now William Moreno? You are a fucked up basement dwell Miz. I understand why you pretend to be other people, no one else would want to be you.

this is not fairfax county websites, its' fairfax UNDERGROUND

i assume the post to be a better than usual troll post faking a situation for rediculous debate

the MIL broke the law insisting on keeping someone else's child without a court order, and SHE STARTED THINGS BY PHYSICALLY TAKING ACTION

the EX may not have been invited by them - could have been HIM - the person you thought you trusted. you need to look forward not back, i warn. these people aren't worth anguish.

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so you'd try to settle out of court to get the police report and any future trial nullified

if they refuse to communicate a good lawyer would quickly wipe the floor with their lawyer for having evaded proper procedure, for trying to use the court as if "placing the first claim / report made should win". the fact is the MIL performed the first illegal action, and though you didn't contact police "first", that doesn't mean they don't owe you a lawsuit over that illegal action.

however your in fairfax and your lawyer will plead you guilty (i'll just warn you that's what's in your future: they lawyer lies to you says he has things prepared, takes a dive in the middle of court, which without education you may not even realize he/she has done to you. and btw the scum lawyer probably is paid by the county and has turned over many cases to them)

SO. if they refuse to mediate. you next step is FILE A POLICE REPORT OF EVERY ACTION THE WOMAN TOOK you don't agree with.

* inviting a competing women to dinner is an action, not just words

* blocking you and insisting you leave your child is an action

there may be more

FILE IT, insure you get a report number and write it down, because fx co police have a really short memory if you don't keep your receipts

keep your receipts of everything

and as i said: settle out of court because you don't want to get caught up in such a thing, trust me

Write you husband telling him how you feel.
Ask you MIL for foriveness
Whether or not she does, remember this:

You don't have to travel to far to find the next real jackass.
people can be idiots, it's not your fault.
they provided plenty of provocation

She took your baby and ask you to leave, what would have been the next step?
Kidnapping your baby from you?

Take the high road and try to make amends.
Be humble and realize you CAN cope with the jerks.
Win your husband to your side .. your child needs the 2 of you TOGETHER AS ONE FAMILY.