Re: I punched my mother-in-law, and it has potentially ruined my marriage
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JNJTX
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Date: February 15, 2018 11:27PM
nomil Wrote:
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> I really need somewhere to vent...and I don't have
> any friends of my own to talk to so I will post
> here. I have had a tough life. I was raised by
> abusive, narcissistic parents, and went through
> trauma that I would never wish on anyone else. At
> around twenty three, after being held practically
> hostage by my family, I ran away and started a new
> life several states away. I met my future husband
> shortly after while he was volunteering at the
> homeless shelter I was staying in. A month later,
> we moved in together. Three months after that, we
> got married. My husband, whom I will call "Jerry"
> (not his real name), is a successful surgeon and
> makes a lot of money, has a nice home, etc. I
> barely graduated high school, and can't get any
> jobs above part-time retail level. Despite this,
> he seems to love me.
>
> My in-laws (his parents, brother, and sister) were
> not thrilled by me from the get-go. I could tell
> they thought I was trash by the way they looked at
> me, and treated me with a certain coldness. They
> were upper middle class, and were living fruitful
> lives. Jerry confided in me that they were worried
> I was a gold digger, and was just using him to
> "squeeze alimony out of (him)".
>
> During a lunch I shared with his mother, I told
> her that she didn't need to worry, I loved her son
> and he is the best friend I ever had. She sneered
> at me, and responded that I was "looking for more
> than just friendship". Things never got better.
> When we got married, it was at a courthouse, by
> ourselves. I didn't want to invite my family (and
> they likely wouldn't come anyway) and his refused
> to attend any wedding between us. I had and still
> have no real friends, and his were busy at work.
>
> He distanced himself from his family at first, and
> we settled into a nice married life. I eventually
> got pregnant, and had a daughter together. At this
> point, the in-laws wanted back into our lives. I
> decided to give them a chance, mostly because I
> want to feel normal and have a nice family life,
> and I want to provide that to my child as well.
> In-laws would typically ignore me during visits,
> doting on my daughter instead. I decided that to
> live with this. My daughter is now three years
> old.
>
> Recently, we gathered for a dinner at the in-laws'
> home, and they invited Jerry's ex-girlfriend over,
> and began to...force some sort of date between
> them. Jerry and I were quickly angered by this. I
> took my daughter, and decided to storm out. My MIL
> tried to take my daughter out of my arms,
> shrieking, "YOU CAN GO, BUT MY GRANDDAUGHTER IS
> STAYING HERE!". At one point, she called me a
> "jagged toothed slut", prompting my other in-laws
> and Jerry's ex to laugh, which angered me enough
> to toss my daughter onto the couch (not a hard
> throw at least...), and punch my MIL in the face.
>
> I feel ashamed I did this. I never get violent
> but...her words made me feel so disgusted and
> worthless, similar to how my own family made me
> feel. The police came over, and I got arrested for
> simple assault. MIL was pushing for child
> endangerment because I tossed my child onto the
> couch, it didn't happen.
>
> Jerry has been angry at me over both hitting his
> mother, and throwing our daughter. He wants to
> separate for a time being, and move in with his
> family, along with our daughter. I pleaded that he
> not do that though his mind seems set on it.
>
> I just feel like garbage. I feel like I fucked up
> my marriage, and maybe even my relationship with
> my daughter. I don't know what to do, and maybe I
> do deserve this over my actions. I just have no
> idea what to do at this point or how to feel.
Pretending to be a woman now William Moreno? You are a fucked up basement dwell Miz. I understand why you pretend to be other people, no one else would want to be you.