Here goes FFU- you all hit it out the park with your advice on my last question a year or so back!

SO Long story short. I am the Girlfriend (yes I lurk here on FFU). Boyfriend (on the outs anyway for other reasons) is unemployed and has been due to him being "too proud" to work retail or what have you...but I digress.

I got paid 2 weeks ago. BF asked to borrow $300- and since he helped me out with the same amount 4 months ago (and I promptly paid him back) I saw no problem with lending him the money. He stated it was to turn his cell back on, grab some toiletries (those damnn Mach5 razors are like $20 now!) and stock up on food since there was none in the house. I handed him $300 cash.

Now heres the kicker- he goes to church every sunday. I do not (I believe and everything, but my job has me working sundays so I do pop in on easter and other major holidays plus on nights here and there but am not a every week goer).

This is relevelant because- he took the money and tithed ALL BUT $50 of it to the church. Then he called me back this past friday saying "he was broke and out of food again". I questioned where the money went that fast (he is an excellent cook) and he had takeout orders for 3 days and then ran out. His cell was on 10 cents a minute status- so he obviously didn't pay AT&T either!!!!

I have no problems tithing- but when it is LITERALLY YOUR LAST MONEY?????

Am I right or wrong to be mad at him coming to me for money again??? I understand his church needs funds but he spent money meant to take care of himself to the church- or he could have gave the church $50 that would have been ok- but $150 when you know you need to eat the rest of the month????

Help me out here- off to work, will check back in before day is over I promise.......FFU blocked at work.

And NO I have not given him any more money at this point. I am looking for how to handle this situation.....

TYPO meant 250 to the church!!!

Oh - and he has NOT MENTIONED How to pay me back- i have already kissed that money goodbye. I want to know what to do next!!!

Sounds like BS...

That would be a great excuse to try to shame you into not requesting the $$$ back.

"Oh I tithed it to the church, whatta nice guy I am. You seriously want that BACK?"

Tap out, he's a punk.

idontlikebeingrightaboutshitlikethisbutiam



Edited 21 time(s). Last edit at 5/31/1967 05:57AM by WingNut.

Last edit at 11/30/2015 01:37PM Last edit at 5/14/2015 03:52PM Last edit at 1/28/2014 05:57AM Last edit at 11/29/2015 01:10PM Last edit at 3/14/2011 11:52PM Last edit at 7/20/2012 04:07AM
Last edit at 6/29/2013 11:18PM Last edit at 3/19/2011 01:02PM Last edit at 3/26/2012 09:07PM

The more relevant question is how adequately do you satisfy his sexual needs? Are you titty fucking? Are you doing anal like a dirty slut?

lend101 Wrote:
-------------------------------------------------------
> TYPO meant 250 to the church!!!
>
> Oh - and he has NOT MENTIONED How to pay me back-
> i have already kissed that money goodbye. I want
> to know what to do next!!!

You've already taken the first step, which is to not give him any more money. He obviously has his priorities messed up. Whether you continue your relationship with him otherwise is your choice.

If he continues to stiff you and you really want to try to get the money back, in a few months file a suit in small claims court and obtain a warrant in debt, which you can use to garnish his paycheck when he gets a job or bank account.

See http://www.courts.state.va.us/resources/small_claims_court_procedures.pdf

eesh Wrote:
-------------------------------------------------------
> The more relevant question is how adequately do
> you satisfy his sexual needs? Are you titty
> fucking? Are you doing anal like a dirty slut?


PlEase answer this question as it will help us determine the best solution for your problem. I'm curious as well.

Nip



Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 10/22/2014 09:45AM by NippleChuck.

Charge him 10 bucks a week until he pays you the full $300 back. Surely the guy can come up with ten every week, and he'll still owe you the 300 when he gets it.

First, this is a troll thread.

Second, read the Luke 21 about the widow.

TROLL POLICE! Wrote:
-------------------------------------------------------
> First, this is a troll thread.
>
> Second, read the Luke 21 about the widow.

What would Michelle Singletary say?

If you would be willing to give him the money without any expectation that he'd pay you back, without any resentment if he didn't pay you back, without any resentment over what it is being used for, and if the money isn't needed for something more important, then make the loan. If not then simply say "I'm sorry but I'm tapped out at the moment.

Need naked pics to make accurate assessment of the situation.

I don't believe he gave the money to the church. My guess is he went and spent it on a good night out or something other than the church. Does he gamble?

Telling him you don't have any more money to lend because you have to give $250 to the Walk for Cancer for Charity.

Ask him to see if the church can lend him the money from a poor man fund. Most churches have funds to help out their poor.

lend101 Wrote:
-------------------------------------------------------
> Here goes FFU- you all hit it out the park with
> your advice on my last question a year or so
> back!
>
> SO Long story short. I am the Girlfriend (yes I
> lurk here on FFU). Boyfriend (on the outs anyway
> for other reasons) is unemployed and has been due
> to him being "too proud" to work retail or what
> have you...but I digress.
>
> I got paid 2 weeks ago. BF asked to borrow $300-
> and since he helped me out with the same amount 4
> months ago (and I promptly paid him back) I saw
> no problem with lending him the money. He stated
> it was to turn his cell back on, grab some
> toiletries (those damnn Mach5 razors are like $20
> now!) and stock up on food since there was none in
> the house. I handed him $300 cash.
>
> Now heres the kicker- he goes to church every
> sunday. I do not (I believe and everything, but my
> job has me working sundays so I do pop in on
> easter and other major holidays plus on nights
> here and there but am not a every week goer).
>
> This is relevelant because- he took the money and
> tithed ALL BUT $50 of it to the church. Then he
> called me back this past friday saying "he was
> broke and out of food again". I questioned where
> the money went that fast (he is an excellent cook)
> and he had takeout orders for 3 days and then ran
> out. His cell was on 10 cents a minute status- so
> he obviously didn't pay AT&T either!!!!
>
> I have no problems tithing- but when it is
> LITERALLY YOUR LAST MONEY?????
>
> Am I right or wrong to be mad at him coming to me
> for money again??? I understand his church needs
> funds but he spent money meant to take care of
> himself to the church- or he could have gave the
> church $50 that would have been ok- but $150 when
> you know you need to eat the rest of the
> month????
>
> Help me out here- off to work, will check back in
> before day is over I promise.......FFU blocked at
> work.
>
> And NO I have not given him any more money at this
> point. I am looking for how to handle this
> situation.....


There are only TWO possible accurate analyses of this situation.

a) You are a troll looking for kicks online.

b) He spent $250 on a sweet big-tittied hooker and a bag of dust.

Case closed.