This is not good news. I am going through a divorce right now and will be homeless on the 8th of January. My wife is taking everything, including the house, and after alimony, child support, and the mortgage payment I am left with approximately $432 to live on each month. Commuting to my job from Springfield to DC takes more than half of that each month. Leaving me with $190 for food, rent, and utilities! I thought I could rely on the services of the county where I pay taxes, but apparently not! A bullet to the head is looking better and better.

http://www.fairfaxunderground.com/forum/read/2/1063059.html

^ A really sad story I just read on the general forum. True story or bullshit?
If its true well then I am really having second thoughts about getting married. Damn.

Sounds true. One of the girlfriends I dated had recently got divorced. Her ex was paying something like $650 for each kid a month, then she got $700 in alimony, she also got the house and a car allowance for driving the kids of $300.

It all added up to something like $3000 the ex had to pay her each month. Plus she got the house and all equity in the house.

The guy ended up moving back in with his parents because the bills killed him.

DONT DO IT

ITS NOT WORTH IT MAN

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But then again I am not in your situation.

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Econ 101 Wrote:
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> Sounds true. One of the girlfriends I dated had
> recently got divorced. Her ex was paying
> something like $650 for each kid a month, then she
> got $700 in alimony, she also got the house and a
> car allowance for driving the kids of $300.
>
> It all added up to something like $3000 the ex had
> to pay her each month. Plus she got the house and
> all equity in the house.
>
> The guy ended up moving back in with his parents
> because the bills killed him.

And you feel comfortable moving in on her with him in a huge bind like that?
He is likely to come after you.
If I were you I would stay as far away from her as possible.

You = Not Smart Wrote:
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> Econ 101 Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > Sounds true. One of the girlfriends I dated had
> > recently got divorced. Her ex was paying
> > something like $650 for each kid a month, then
> she
> > got $700 in alimony, she also got the house and
> a
> > car allowance for driving the kids of $300.
> >
> > It all added up to something like $3000 the ex
> had
> > to pay her each month. Plus she got the house
> and
> > all equity in the house.
> >
> > The guy ended up moving back in with his
> parents
> > because the bills killed him.
>
> And you feel comfortable moving in on her with him
> in a huge bind like that?
> He is likely to come after you.
> If I were you I would stay as far away from her as
> possible.

I felt for the poor guy but he was the one who got divorced. Kids aren't cheap. She said her ex was hoping maybe I would marry her because then he would be off hook for some money.

Its true! I am the one who posted that story. Married for 18 years. 6 years ago my wife decided we should sleep in separate bedrooms because I move around too much and she can't get any sleep or I go to bed after she does and wake her up, or I wake her up when I am getting ready for work. 4 years ago we stopped having sex! (No I have never fooled around on her, not sure she can say the same, but can't prove anything!)

She filed for divorce back in August 2011. Hit me out of the blue. Cited irreconcilble differences and mental cruelty. Filed a restraining order and got me removed from the house saying she was afraid for her and our kid's safety. (When there is a child involved, the law always sides with the mother unless there is undeniable proof otherwise.)

Served the papers and the restraining order the same day at work. I couldn't even go home and see my kid! I had to arrange with Sheriff's Deputies to go to my house to remove personal belongs, which basically consisted of my clothes, that's it. I could not remove any items that were considered matrial property!

Hired a lawyer. Didn't do much good. She got sole custody, I get limited visitation 1 weekend every other month and at Christmas that's it! Because the child is considered learning disabled (has ADHD) and forcing them to move may disrupt school learning, my ex retains domicle rights to the martial property (house) and can not be forced out until the child graduates high school or my ex remarries. (But she can have boyfriends move in with her, as long as she doesn't remarry!) I have to continue paying the mortgage on the house for my son until that time, after which it can be sold and the proceeds split equally with my ex, even though she has never paid one dime towards the mortgage.

My wife also has pays the health insurance for my son through her small business at a cost of $1625 per month, $1100 of which she attributes to my son. She claims, her and my son's pre-exsting conditions and specialists who don't participate in other insurance plans prevent her from switching to my health insurance offered through my employer. (Small IT consulting firm)

The divorce decree is as follows:

Alimony $1875

Child Support $1766

Mortgage $3075

Total Monthly Obligation $6,716

I make $125K per year, $7,148 take home per month after taxes, my health insurance, other benefits, 401K

As they say, its cheaper to keep her. But when she files and has a good attorney, there's mothing you can do.

Was living with my brother and sister-in-law in Springfield, but he got transfrred to Texas (military) and they leave on Jan 6, new owners move in Jan 8.

Okay, I am fucking sick and fucking tired of these fucking threads about rape! RAPE IS NOT FUCKING FUNNY! Joke about anything else you want...
Joke about cp, joke about loli, joke about murder, joke about drugs, but DON'T FUCKING JOKE ABOUT RAPE! Rape DESTROYS a woman, it STRIPS HER OF HUMANITY! It is disgusting, inhumane, regressive and insane. RAPE IS OFF THE FUCKING TABLE NOT EVEN YOU FUCKING VIRGIN ASSHOLES CAN BE SUCH FUCKHOLES THAT YOU JOKE ABOUT A WOMAN'S WOMANHOOD BEING VIOLATED!

And no, I am not some lesbian dyke cunt, I am a woman. I was raped. My virginity taken from me, I can never give it to a man I love. I was raped again and again and again and again and again by a random stranger when I was 15, And between you and me something amazing happened...and now I can talk to animals! Its really cool! But totally a secret. And you know what? Life's never been the same

Got no other relatives in the area! So I am out on the street!

Fucking bravo....

_Eyedea_ Wrote:
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> Okay, I am fucking sick and fucking tired of these
> fucking threads about rape! RAPE IS NOT FUCKING
> FUNNY! Joke about anything else you want...
> Joke about cp, joke about loli, joke about murder,
> joke about drugs, but DON'T FUCKING JOKE ABOUT
> RAPE! Rape DESTROYS a woman, it STRIPS HER OF
> HUMANITY! It is disgusting, inhumane, regressive
> and insane. RAPE IS OFF THE FUCKING TABLE NOT EVEN
> YOU FUCKING VIRGIN ASSHOLES CAN BE SUCH FUCKHOLES
> THAT YOU JOKE ABOUT A WOMAN'S WOMANHOOD BEING
> VIOLATED!
>
> And no, I am not some lesbian dyke cunt, I am a
> woman. I was raped. My virginity taken from me, I
> can never give it to a man I love. I was raped
> again and again and again and again and again by a
> random stranger when I was 15, And between you and
> me something amazing happened...and now I can talk
> to animals! Its really cool! But totally a secret.
> And you know what? Life's never been the same

Signatures are for fags

Ohshit! Wrote:
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> Its true! I am the one who posted that story.
> Married for 18 years. 6 years ago my wife decided
> we should sleep in separate bedrooms because I
> move around too much and she can't get any sleep
> or I go to bed after she does and wake her up, or
> I wake her up when I am getting ready for work. 4
> years ago we stopped having sex! (No I have never
> fooled around on her, not sure she can say the
> same, but can't prove anything!)
>
> She filed for divorce back in August 2011. Hit me
> out of the blue. Cited irreconcilble differences
> and mental cruelty. Filed a restraining order and
> got me removed from the house saying she was
> afraid for her and our kid's safety. (When there
> is a child involved, the law always sides with the
> mother unless there is undeniable proof
> otherwise.)
>
> Served the papers and the restraining order the
> same day at work. I couldn't even go home and see
> my kid! I had to arrange with Sheriff's Deputies
> to go to my house to remove personal belongs,
> which basically consisted of my clothes, that's
> it. I could not remove any items that were
> considered matrial property!
>
> Hired a lawyer. Didn't do much good. She got
> sole custody, I get limited visitation 1 weekend
> every other month and at Christmas that's it!
> Because the child is considered learning disabled
> (has ADHD) and forcing them to move may disrupt
> school learning, my ex retains domicle rights to
> the martial property (house) and can not be forced
> out until the child graduates high school or my ex
> remarries. (But she can have boyfriends move in
> with her, as long as she doesn't remarry!) I have
> to continue paying the mortgage on the house for
> my son until that time, after which it can be sold
> and the proceeds split equally with my ex, even
> though she has never paid one dime towards the
> mortgage.
>
> My wife also has pays the health insurance for my
> son through her small business at a cost of $1625
> per month, $1100 of which she attributes to my
> son. She claims, her and my son's pre-exsting
> conditions and specialists who don't participate
> in other insurance plans prevent her from
> switching to my health insurance offered through
> my employer. (Small IT consulting firm)
>
> The divorce decree is as follows:
>
> Alimony $1875
>
> Child Support $1766
>
> Mortgage $3075
>
> Total Monthly Obligation $6,716
>
> I make $125K per year, $7,148 take home per month
> after taxes, my health insurance, other benefits,
> 401K
>
> As they say, its cheaper to keep her. But when
> she files and has a good attorney, there's mothing
> you can do.
>
> Was living with my brother and sister-in-law in
> Springfield, but he got transfrred to Texas
> (military) and they leave on Jan 6, new owners
> move in Jan 8.

Holy Shit! Damn.

So in other words, at this point you would love to trade places with a pimple faced, 19 year old, World Of Warcraft playing nerd, who works at GameStop and earns $10 an hour?

I didn't think women got alimony anymore. What's the rationale behind that?

Ohshit! Wrote:
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> Its true! I am the one who posted that story.
> Married for 18 years. 6 years ago my wife decided
> we should sleep in separate bedrooms because I
> move around too much and she can't get any sleep
> or I go to bed after she does and wake her up, or
> I wake her up when I am getting ready for work. 4
> years ago we stopped having sex! (No I have never
> fooled around on her, not sure she can say the
> same, but can't prove anything!)
>
> She filed for divorce back in August 2011. Hit me
> out of the blue. Cited irreconcilble differences
> and mental cruelty. Filed a restraining order and
> got me removed from the house saying she was
> afraid for her and our kid's safety. (When there
> is a child involved, the law always sides with the
> mother unless there is undeniable proof
> otherwise.)
>
> Served the papers and the restraining order the
> same day at work. I couldn't even go home and see
> my kid! I had to arrange with Sheriff's Deputies
> to go to my house to remove personal belongs,
> which basically consisted of my clothes, that's
> it. I could not remove any items that were
> considered matrial property!
>
> Hired a lawyer. Didn't do much good. She got
> sole custody, I get limited visitation 1 weekend
> every other month and at Christmas that's it!
> Because the child is considered learning disabled
> (has ADHD) and forcing them to move may disrupt
> school learning, my ex retains domicle rights to
> the martial property (house) and can not be forced
> out until the child graduates high school or my ex
> remarries. (But she can have boyfriends move in
> with her, as long as she doesn't remarry!) I have
> to continue paying the mortgage on the house for
> my son until that time, after which it can be sold
> and the proceeds split equally with my ex, even
> though she has never paid one dime towards the
> mortgage.
>
> My wife also has pays the health insurance for my
> son through her small business at a cost of $1625
> per month, $1100 of which she attributes to my
> son. She claims, her and my son's pre-exsting
> conditions and specialists who don't participate
> in other insurance plans prevent her from
> switching to my health insurance offered through
> my employer. (Small IT consulting firm)
>
> The divorce decree is as follows:
>
> Alimony $1875
>
> Child Support $1766
>
> Mortgage $3075
>
> Total Monthly Obligation $6,716
>
> I make $125K per year, $7,148 take home per month
> after taxes, my health insurance, other benefits,
> 401K
>
> As they say, its cheaper to keep her. But when
> she files and has a good attorney, there's mothing
> you can do.
>
> Was living with my brother and sister-in-law in
> Springfield, but he got transfrred to Texas
> (military) and they leave on Jan 6, new owners
> move in Jan 8.

Wow, just pay a one time fee of 25k to a D.C nigger if you know what I mean. She clearly deserves the bullet, not you.

A Question Wrote:
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> I didn't think women got alimony anymore. What's
> the rationale behind that?


I don't understand how she gets alimony if she runs her own business? I feel you pain though. I would refinance the house and pull every penny out of it.

Think I'd be looking for a country without extradition.

I mean WTF. Not much to lose. If you're going to be broke might as well be broke on a nice beach somewhere with some life ahead of you.

You need to lawyer up buddy. Child support should be the only thing you are paying.

Dude I think you need to take a trip up to NY/NJ and find some people to take care of this problem for you.

Sounds like Ohshit! had a very bad lawyer, his wife had a great one or there are details that we are not hearing.

_Eyedea_ Wrote:
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> Okay, I am fucking sick and fucking tired of these
> fucking threads about rape! RAPE IS NOT FUCKING
> FUNNY! Joke about anything else you want...
> Joke about cp, joke about loli, joke about murder,
> joke about drugs, but DON'T FUCKING JOKE ABOUT
> RAPE! Rape DESTROYS a woman, it STRIPS HER OF
> HUMANITY! It is disgusting, inhumane, regressive
> and insane. RAPE IS OFF THE FUCKING TABLE NOT EVEN
> YOU FUCKING VIRGIN ASSHOLES CAN BE SUCH FUCKHOLES
> THAT YOU JOKE ABOUT A WOMAN'S WOMANHOOD BEING
> VIOLATED!
>
> And no, I am not some lesbian dyke cunt, I am a
> woman. I was raped. My virginity taken from me, I
> can never give it to a man I love. I was raped
> again and again and again and again and again by a
> random stranger when I was 15, And between you and
> me something amazing happened...and now I can talk
> to animals! Its really cool! But totally a secret.
> And you know what? Life's never been the same


WRONG!

Equal rights for women means they need to get up and dust themselves off. Same as if a man is raped, get up and deal with it. Want to be equal, then defend yourselves like a person would do - no special bullshit. Do you think having a penis pushed into you for a little while is worse than getting beaten down with fists and a bat?

This idea of women needing to take a rape like a "man" was originally brought to the front-lines by a WOMAN author.

Did you even read the post you responded to?

4Tydb Wrote:
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> WRONG!
>
> Equal rights for women means they need to get up
> and dust themselves off. Same as if a man is
> raped, get up and deal with it. Want to be equal,
> then defend yourselves like a person would do - no
> special bullshit. Do you think having a penis
> pushed into you for a little while is worse than
> getting beaten down with fists and a bat?
>
> This idea of women needing to take a rape like a
> "man" was originally brought to the front-lines by
> a WOMAN author.

Signatures are for fags

Harry Tuttle Wrote:
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> Did you even read the post you responded to?
>
not the end

a little odd now that i have

ooops

but whatevs

Sobb Story? Wrote:
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> A really sad story I just read on the general
> forum. True story or bullshit?


sounds like bullshit to me.

I am Divorce Attorney in McLean. OhShit! got hit pretty bad, but in VA you have to pay alimony if you make more than your spouse, regardless of who files. Sounds like her small business is not producing any real income. But get this, in VA she may have asked for normal business expenses to be factored into the child support calculation. So it could have been worse.

I think the judge should have factored at least half of the mortgage payment into the alimony or child support calculation. But depending on how contenious the divorce proceedings were (we don't know if the guy was a total asshole or the woman was blowing the judge, yes it does happen) and because there is a child involved the judge will give the woman/mom a lot more and tell the guy tough shit, in a manner of speaking.

He can always file a petition for reconsideration, but he has to be careful, because if he does this too often, the court will dismiss it without consideration if the circumstances have not changed significantly.

Couldofbeenworse Wrote:
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> I am Divorce Attorney in McLean. OhShit! got hit
> pretty bad, but in VA you have to pay alimony if
> you make more than your spouse, regardless of who
> files. Sounds like her small business is not
> producing any real income. But get this, in VA
> she may have asked for normal business expenses to
> be factored into the child support calculation.
> So it could have been worse.
>
> I think the judge should have factored at least
> half of the mortgage payment into the alimony or
> child support calculation. But depending on how
> contenious the divorce proceedings were (we don't
> know if the guy was a total asshole or the woman
> was blowing the judge, yes it does happen) and
> because there is a child involved the judge will
> give the woman/mom a lot more and tell the guy
> tough shit, in a manner of speaking.
>
> He can always file a petition for reconsideration,
> but he has to be careful, because if he does this
> too often, the court will dismiss it without
> consideration if the circumstances have not
> changed significantly.

Hey, If the home off in cash before we got married, do i get to keep it no matter what? Not that im getting married, but reading this is scary stuff.

I would move out of state and continue to pay child support but not alimony. Pleanty of my friends have done it but cannot ever come back into the state in fear of being arrest.

Or move to another country

Or dont pay it period and go to jail for a 2 years or so.

For 400 buck a month I would not pay