Re: Help Find Shane Donahue
Look up the law
Date: June 12, 2011 04:48AM
In response to ABCDEFG and to AOmega19:
AOmega19 - 1) the poster in question does have a Hickerson Electrical Truck on it - a picture of a truck that (although may not have been the exact one) Shane WAS IN FACT last seen in was used... Was this slander, absolutely not!. A picture of a vehicle of the similiar make and model may be used in posters to show a likeness. Now, if you are speaking of something else maybe you should let us know. And for the record, the only RELIABLE person last saw Shane leaving with Timmy Hickerson. Again - not against the law to state the facts.
And to ABCDEFG:
1) the family has not stopped attempting to locate Shane, or the people responsible for his disappearance
2) The Donahue's have not acted out in anger, and I don't believe they would until they were absolutely forced to
3) Again, if you seem to be a bit confused as to what the LAW says in actuality and what you would like to twist it into to fit your best interest
4) The FAMILY that has been ATTACKED (as you call it) is the Donahue family since last March, when not only did the disappearance of Shane take place, but also when nothing but lies, finger pointing, and outrageous speculations began taking place.
5) There are no crazy people in the Donahue family. They are a family attempting to survive a mystery that nobody would wish on their worst enemies.
As much as I would truly like to believe your words came from a place of good, explaining to anyone on a forum how you believe a family of a missing person should act, then advising a family "take the high road, grieve your losses, keep looking for Shane and find a way to address their issues w/o turning everyone against you", says that there are no good intentions in your post. Here's what you should be saying "I have no idea what this family must be going through, or how the loss of a child may feel, but my heart goes out to them. I can't offer any advise because, I would never in a million years know how to act, what to think or what to do if I were in their shoes."
Now I realize that this may be something so hard for you or anyone that has said an ill word against the Donahue's, so I will attempt to explain it as best as I can. There are always different variations of a story, there is the truth that you say, the truth of another, and then there is the reality of what really has happened. The Donahue poster stated the "FACTS" as they have been told, know from their own eyes, and yes what they have pieced together.
As I am sure that the Hickerson family has their side of the story. I am sure that when Timmy's picture was posted in the newspapers the Hickersons screamed Slander... But the truth was that Timmy didn't follow the law, he made a mistake and is now paying for it, true or false?? A Hickerson truck did have Shane in it last March, true or false?? My point being is, Timmy is where he is alive and in prison. So, if the Donahue's post a photo of the facts that they know, why would that be so horrible?
If you know the Hickersons, then just ask them this: if the table's were turned, if Timmy was missing, and Shane had been the last person THEY saw him with - what accusations would be thrown? ESPECIALLY, when not to much later Shane got arrested for breaking into a gun store?
The Donahue's are doing the "right" thing, and NOT GIVING UP on looking for their son!! Who are you to say when the healing should begin? Or when they should grieve their loss? Shane has been missing for over a year, and regardless of how old my children are, until I found the truth, until I bring my child home, and until I knew that the people responsible were punished for whatever wrong doing they caused, I wouldn't give up. I wouldn't grieve my loss. And an assailant the Donahue's aren't. Again, maybe a little honesty should come to play on the ripping down of the posters incident.
So with that said, maybe if those of you who attack the Donahue's and post comments about how the Donahue's need to give up hope, maybe if you would assist the Donahue's in finding out the truth, rather than attacking a family who is dealing with Shane's disappearance on a daily basis. If you don't want the posters out, you obviously know your sons friends who have constantly made posts on this page - reach out to them. Find the truth, not just for Shane - but for all the people involved! Put an end to a parents nightmare. The full truth will come out about everything. But until they can bring home their son, the search will never end.
And what chances have the Donahue's had to "be angry, and blow off smoke?" This isn't a family dog that got hit by your vehicle, or a ring that was stolen. We are talking about a life of a human being. The anger doesn't stop, there is no smoke to blow off - because they can't put their son to rest! Maybe you would give up on your child, but don't assume that others are that willing to do so - regardless of how other people may view the missing or their families. Hickersons son is a felon w/ a drug record, but I seriously doubt that they would just write of him.