Divorcing my dipshit husband of 21 years. Husband is a worthless, selfish, asshole, who has no time for his family. Thought going golfing this weekend with his buddies is more important than spending the holiday weekend with my family at their beach house. He will be shocked when he is served with divorce papers on the golf course!

We have a nice house in Little Rocky Run which we lived in for 12 years. Asshole refuses to take care of it. Lawn looks like crap, house needs lots of repairs and he just ignores it.

He is totally non-supportive, spends money like crazy on frivelous things, has over $20K in credit card debt and no savings, but loves his fucking BMW. Won't spend a dime on our son (13) or daughter (11). (I don't give a shit if he spends anything on me.) He has been working for nearly 25 years and has not saved one cent towards retirement. He cancelled our last two family vacations because he could afford them, but he always has money (read credit cards) to play golf with his buddies on the weekend and buy drinks afterwwards.

We fight constantly about money and the house! He is verbally abusive and has issues with anger (he punches holes in the wall, instead of hitting me)! I fear for my safety and that of our kids. The other night he and our son got into a fight and I thought he was going to kill our son! We no longer share a bedroom and we haven't had sex in 6 years (lawyer says that is constructive abandonment), and when were were having sex it was never any good anyway (pmeer)! I know he has had at least two affairs in the last five years! I can't believe I have been married to this asshole this long!

He is leaving Thursday to go golfing with his buddies. I am changing the locks and moving all his stuff into storage. When he is served, he will be given the key to the storage unit, along with a restraining order!

So here is my question. Can I call the cops preemptively on Monday before he arrives home, or do I have to wait until he violates the restraining order, ie he pulls into the driveway? Attorney says I should wait, but a friend who husband is a cop in PWC says I can have an officer at the house, if I know he is coming and they will arrest him if he sets foot on the property. Any adivce appreciated!

Are you hot? Your husband had an affair, now its time you do the same.

24, Athletic, in Falls Church

Have you been getting in shape in anticipation of being single? When are you going to start going out on the prowl?

any good? Wrote:
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> Have you been getting in shape in anticipation of
> being single? When are you going to start going
> out on the prowl?


Fuck you, she is all mine.

Are you shaved? Do you have any hair below the eye brows??

40, fit, well to do.

You know, Jenny...maybe if you took a bit better care of yourself and didn't let your body go to shit, your husband would be more considerate. Why should he care about you if YOU don't care about YOU?

Finally that bitch Jenny is kicking me out. She is over-weight, whines all the time and only cares about shopping and GNO. Can't wait for her to serve me so I can move in with that hot 22 year old who is totally shaved, doesn't want kids and will let me fuck her up the ass. And FTR we have fucked in every seat of the BMW and on the hoods as well.

Do you do anal?

No such thing as a restraining order in Virginia.


You fucktards have been trolled and trolled hard.

Highlander Wrote:
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> No such thing as a restraining order in Virginia.
>
>
>
> You fucktards have been trolled and trolled hard.

Yes, there is. It's called a court order of protection.

As you can tell from above your only other options are the same thing or worse.

goodluck Wrote:
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> As you can tell from above your only other options
> are the same thing or worse.


How's that?

Spring Fling Calling Wrote:
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> any good? Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > Have you been getting in shape in anticipation
> of
> > being single? When are you going to start
> going
> > out on the prowl?
>
>
> Fuck you, she is all mine.

Her husband hasn't hit it in six years. You think she looks good?

Jenny O Wrote:
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> Divorcing my dipshit husband of 21 years. Husband
> is a worthless, selfish, asshole, who has no time
> for his family. Thought going golfing this
> weekend with his buddies is more important than
> spending the holiday weekend with my family at
> their beach house. He will be shocked when he is
> served with divorce papers on the golf course!
>
> We have a nice house in Little Rocky Run which we
> lived in for 12 years. Asshole refuses to take
> care of it. Lawn looks like crap, house needs
> lots of repairs and he just ignores it.
>
> He is totally non-supportive, spends money like
> crazy on frivelous things, has over $20K in credit
> card debt and no savings, but loves his fucking
> BMW. Won't spend a dime on our son (13) or
> daughter (11). (I don't give a shit if he spends
> anything on me.) He has been working for nearly 25
> years and has not saved one cent towards
> retirement. He cancelled our last two family
> vacations because he could afford them, but he
> always has money (read credit cards) to play golf
> with his buddies on the weekend and buy drinks
> afterwwards.
>
> We fight constantly about money and the house! He
> is verbally abusive and has issues with anger (he
> punches holes in the wall, instead of hitting me)!
> I fear for my safety and that of our kids. The
> other night he and our son got into a fight and I
> thought he was going to kill our son! We no
> longer share a bedroom and we haven't had sex in 6
> years (lawyer says that is constructive
> abandonment), and when were were having sex it was
> never any good anyway (pmeer)! I know he has had
> at least two affairs in the last five years! I
> can't believe I have been married to this asshole
> this long!
>
> He is leaving Thursday to go golfing with his
> buddies. I am changing the locks and moving all
> his stuff into storage. When he is served, he
> will be given the key to the storage unit, along
> with a restraining order!
>
> So here is my question. Can I call the cops
> preemptively on Monday before he arrives home, or
> do I have to wait until he violates the
> restraining order, ie he pulls into the driveway?
> Attorney says I should wait, but a friend who
> husband is a cop in PWC says I can have an officer
> at the house, if I know he is coming and they will
> arrest him if he sets foot on the property. Any
> adivce appreciated!
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I'm missing something. How can you get a restraining order on someone who may be a jerk but hasn't really done anything threatening? I don't understand how this guy can be legally evicted from the house, let alone issued a restraining order.

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Let me guess, he is a firefighter and was having an affair with a volunteer at his station?

Hell for him or you??

Jenny:

I think you're finally doing the right thing for yourself and your kids.

I assume your lawyer's advice is based on the best expertise, though I understand your desire to crowd source the critical question given the stakes.

I hope you have at least one good friend or family confidante to support you in this difficult time--and similar supports for the kids. Counseling would be good for all. It will likely help them if you can keep your emotions steady despite the stressors.

Wishing you a better future!

Why get a storage unit? I know this contractor......

A few words of advice for when you are new on the dating scene.

- Don't tell your dates, my dipshit husband etc... Men all take each others sides. People fake amicable divorces all the time. We aren't allowed to play " the victim" even if we were. We grew apart but still care about each but, its over will win many more hearts. Men hate sour bitter grapes like I said, even you deserve to be one, they don't care. Being positive will win you what you want.

- Get in shape, keep yourself up nice but don't fret it too much. The best guys are never going to be a slave to a woman's beauty. I made the mistake of devoting too much time and money on my appearance, I worked awfully hard and actually risked my life just to give men something good-looking to have sex with. It honestly didn't pay off. They just want to turn it around and say you're only good for your looks, you're shallow anyways.

I have no idea what sort of crack the OP is smoking or who told her she could do what she plans, but here is a bit of info:'

You can't get an emergency protective order (that's what the Commonwealth calls them, until the court decides whether they have merit or not) with no grounds - ie. you must be in fear of your well-being, safety, etc. The only thing you posted with respect to that is that you are angry with your husband. That is not grounds for an EPO. If you fell like lying to the magistrate , in your petition for an EPO, you should prepare to support your claims in the petition in court.

You can change the locks as many times as you want, but until there is a court ordering your husband from the home (his and yours), he has just as much of a right to be there as you do. If he can't get into his home, he can call the police who will make you let him in. But, if you want to give money to a locksmith, be my guest.

If you are serious about filing for divorce, I'd advise you to get an attorney who will advise you on what you can and cannot do during your divorce.

Jenny O Wrote:
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> Divorcing my dipshit husband of 21 years. Husband
> is a worthless, selfish, asshole, who has no time
> for his family. Thought going golfing this
> weekend with his buddies is more important than
> spending the holiday weekend with my family at
> their beach house. He will be shocked when he is
> served with divorce papers on the golf course!
>
> We have a nice house in Little Rocky Run which we
> lived in for 12 years. Asshole refuses to take
> care of it. Lawn looks like crap, house needs
> lots of repairs and he just ignores it.
>
> He is totally non-supportive, spends money like
> crazy on frivelous things, has over $20K in credit
> card debt and no savings, but loves his fucking
> BMW. Won't spend a dime on our son (13) or
> daughter (11). (I don't give a shit if he spends
> anything on me.) He has been working for nearly 25
> years and has not saved one cent towards
> retirement. He cancelled our last two family
> vacations because he could afford them, but he
> always has money (read credit cards) to play golf
> with his buddies on the weekend and buy drinks
> afterwwards.
>
> We fight constantly about money and the house! He
> is verbally abusive and has issues with anger (he
> punches holes in the wall, instead of hitting me)!
> I fear for my safety and that of our kids. The
> other night he and our son got into a fight and I
> thought he was going to kill our son! We no
> longer share a bedroom and we haven't had sex in 6
> years (lawyer says that is constructive
> abandonment), and when were were having sex it was
> never any good anyway (pmeer)! I know he has had
> at least two affairs in the last five years! I
> can't believe I have been married to this asshole
> this long!
>
> He is leaving Thursday to go golfing with his
> buddies. I am changing the locks and moving all
> his stuff into storage. When he is served, he
> will be given the key to the storage unit, along
> with a restraining order!
>
> So here is my question. Can I call the cops
> preemptively on Monday before he arrives home, or
> do I have to wait until he violates the
> restraining order, ie he pulls into the driveway?
> Attorney says I should wait, but a friend who
> husband is a cop in PWC says I can have an officer
> at the house, if I know he is coming and they will
> arrest him if he sets foot on the property. Any
> adivce appreciated!

I hope you end up destitute, you fucking bitch. Jesus Christ, look how much you wrote. No wonder he can't take your shit any more.

Fucking idiots!

Do you drive a burgundy Oldsmobile minivan and talk like a dried up sorority girl?

Probably a typical Little Rocky Run life.

OP is a fat fucking loser with frumunda cheese growing from her gunt.
The husband is probably banging some hot thin slut right now.

Hdusu Wrote:
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> goodluck Wrote:
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> > As you can tell from above your only other
> options
> > are the same thing or worse.
>
>
> How's that?

Still wondering how's that?

JjmX7 Wrote:
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> Let me guess, he is a firefighter and was having
> an affair with a volunteer at his station?


And maybe she's that superhot EMT we keep hearing about. The one from last year's Celebrate Fairfax.

I thought posting on this board would be helpful, it was not. First of all I am not some lazy fat bitch who gained 60lbs and let me self go to shit. I hit the gym 5 times a week. I am blonde, (not the Super Hot EMT from Springfield) 5'6" and not overweight by a long shot. I get a lot of looks and offers from guys (and girls too), so I must be doing something right. I stopped screwing my dick head husband because sex with him never lasted more than a few minutes before he was done and said, "sorry," and I was left to take matters into my own hands if you no what I mean.

I do have a very good attorney who knows what the fuck he is doing. Because I fear for my own safety and that of my children I can get an Protective Order at any time without a problem! I have done it before but reluctantly removed it when my husband begged, cried, and swore he would get counseling (which he claimed he did, but it did not help.) I recorded my husband's latest bout of explosive anger with my iPhone and took pictures of the holes he punched in the walls. (As he was ranting I told him I was recording it and he said he didn't give a shit, so yes it is submissible to the magistrate according to my attorney.)

Sorry I posted on here. Don't worry I am not on the prowl or hitting the dating scene, because most men are assholes. I have two children and don't need anymore babies (men) in my life right now.

Jenny O Wrote:
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> I thought posting on this board would be helpful,
> it was not. First of all I am not some lazy fat
> bitch who gained 60lbs and let me self go to shit.
> I hit the gym 5 times a week. I am blonde, (not
> the Super Hot EMT from Springfield) 5'6" and not
> overweight by a long shot. I get a lot of looks
> and offers from guys (and girls too), so I must be
> doing something right. I stopped screwing my dick
> head husband because sex with him never lasted
> more than a few minutes before he was done and
> said, "sorry," and I was left to take matters into
> my own hands if you no what I mean.
>
> I do have a very good attorney who knows what the
> fuck he is doing. Because I fear for my own
> safety and that of my children I can get an
> Protective Order at any time without a problem! I
> have done it before but reluctantly removed it
> when my husband begged, cried, and swore he would
> get counseling (which he claimed he did, but it
> did not help.) I recorded my husband's latest bout
> of explosive anger with my iPhone and took
> pictures of the holes he punched in the walls. (As
> he was ranting I told him I was recording it and
> he said he didn't give a shit, so yes it is
> submissible to the magistrate according to my
> attorney.)
>
> Sorry I posted on here. Don't worry I am not on
> the prowl or hitting the dating scene, because
> most men are assholes. I have two children and
> don't need anymore babies (men) in my life right
> now.

Jenny; I have been divorced for 4 years now after a 22 year marriage and you are about to embark on a journey that will have a lot of ups and downs. My ex left due to a "mid-life" crisis (we married too young) and the kids saw her behavior post marriage and now most of them won't talk to her. Make sure you don't throw your ex under the bus around the kids, he is still their father. You will go through a lot of emotions and the men out there will prey on you so be very careful! Divorce is never fun for anyone, but in the end if its the best thing for all it will work out. Good luck!

One of the first things any good attorney would have told you was to not discuss this matter on social media or message boards.

I have to wonder who is the bigger problem. I also wonder what your husband has to say about you.

Jenny O Wrote:
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> I thought posting on this board would be helpful,
> it was not. First of all I am not some lazy fat
> bitch who gained 60lbs and let me self go to shit.
> I hit the gym 5 times a week. I am blonde, (not
> the Super Hot EMT from Springfield) 5'6" and not
> overweight by a long shot. I get a lot of looks
> and offers from guys (and girls too), so I must be
> doing something right. I stopped screwing my dick
> head husband because sex with him never lasted
> more than a few minutes before he was done and
> said, "sorry," and I was left to take matters into
> my own hands if you no what I mean.
>
> I do have a very good attorney who knows what the
> fuck he is doing. Because I fear for my own
> safety and that of my children I can get an
> Protective Order at any time without a problem! I
> have done it before but reluctantly removed it
> when my husband begged, cried, and swore he would
> get counseling (which he claimed he did, but it
> did not help.) I recorded my husband's latest bout
> of explosive anger with my iPhone and took
> pictures of the holes he punched in the walls. (As
> he was ranting I told him I was recording it and
> he said he didn't give a shit, so yes it is
> submissible to the magistrate according to my
> attorney.)
>
> Sorry I posted on here. Don't worry I am not on
> the prowl or hitting the dating scene, because
> most men are assholes. I have two children and
> don't need anymore babies (men) in my life right
> now.


= GOLD DIGGER

Jenny O probably gained several pounds and does not put out. When she does on their anniversary, she probably just lays there. Since Jenny O has given up, I am sure her hooch maintenance is ZERO and her coot smells all nasty.

No wonder your husband is sick of your shit Jenny O!

Let me fuck your big ass. You dumb for staying 21 years knowing the signs. I am so mad at you I just want to fuck you like a slut. Let me call you a dumb bitch while I smack you cross your face and ass! Lets have rough sex baby!!!!!!!!!

Excited for you.

You were an idiot for getting married in the first place.

Only suckers and insecure people get married.

Enjoy life now. Instead of peanut butter and jelly every night you can now have the smoogaborder of men.

You can now date and get some excitement back in your sex life.

Enjoy dating and fun times
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you're a fucking wreck. Why would you come here of all places with any sort of personal issue? Hopefully you're just a troll.

Wishing you the best of luck; it sounds like you have endured a lot and now can finally begin the next chapter of your life.

You will be fine. Yes, it will be an adjustment with ups and downs but it will be better in the long run.

Cindy S Wrote:
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> Or if you preferr something softer

Slam a woman with 2 kids for staying in a marriage for 21 years and trying to make it work. Slam the single mothers...
Something softer sounds nice and NO, you don't get to join or watch!

fuzzy Wrote:
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> Cindy S Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
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> > Or if you preferr something softer
>
> Slam a woman with 2 kids for staying in a
> marriage for 21 years and trying to make it work.
> Slam the single mothers...
> Something softer sounds nice and NO, you don't
> get to join or watch!

Video or it didn't happen.

I have known a number of women like you over the years Jenny. Some have been my clients. Others have been the opposing party in my cases. Either way it is people like you who make those in my profession rich.

If you are that miserable after that many years of marriage, chances are that your spouse is just as miserable. Maybe the reason that he hangs out with his golf buddies, runs up his credit card debt and loves his BMW is because these are among the few ways that he can get any amount of joy in an otherwise miserable existence. Maybe he cancelled the last two family vacations because the ones prior to that were shear misery for him, and he didn't want to go through it again. This isn't meant to be a slam against you. It just means that your and his life together has headed in a direction that makes neither of you happy.

You can spend thousands or even tens of thousands of dollars fighting over whose fault it is, wasting your financial future and probably ruining any chance of your kids getting through this with minimal scars. You can also accept that it is your fault as well as his, and try to work together with him, and with trained intermediaries if that would be helpful, to try to unravel the different ties that bind the two of you together. Your call.

If you are trying to have him thrown out of the house, and trying to keep him from his kids, then you are going to war. Six months from now when you've dug yourself deep into debt trying to fight him, or two years from now when your kids are turning all their anger against you for ruining your life, remember that you had a choice.

Jenny O Wrote:
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> I thought posting on this board would be helpful,
> it was not. First of all I am not some lazy fat
> bitch who gained 60lbs and let me self go to shit.
> I hit the gym 5 times a week. I am blonde, (not
> the Super Hot EMT from Springfield) 5'6" and not
> overweight by a long shot. I get a lot of looks
> and offers from guys (and girls too), so I must be
> doing something right. I stopped screwing my dick
> head husband because sex with him never lasted
> more than a few minutes before he was done and
> said, "sorry," and I was left to take matters into
> my own hands if you no what I mean.
>
> I do have a very good attorney who knows what the
> fuck he is doing. Because I fear for my own
> safety and that of my children I can get an
> Protective Order at any time without a problem! I
> have done it before but reluctantly removed it
> when my husband begged, cried, and swore he would
> get counseling (which he claimed he did, but it
> did not help.) I recorded my husband's latest bout
> of explosive anger with my iPhone and took
> pictures of the holes he punched in the walls. (As
> he was ranting I told him I was recording it and
> he said he didn't give a shit, so yes it is
> submissible to the magistrate according to my
> attorney.)
>
> Sorry I posted on here. Don't worry I am not on
> the prowl or hitting the dating scene, because
> most men are assholes. I have two children and
> don't need anymore babies (men) in my life right
> now.

You sound really hot. Can you please post your pic here?

Legal Warning Wrote:
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> shear misery

That would make a good hair stylist reality show title.

Once you loose the dead weight if you are in decent shape and disease free check out Brambleton in Ashburn or Victory Lakes in Bristow for a cool swingers crowd. They both are friendly towards single women looking for a little fun.

What a drama queen... Fears for her safety from a man who plays golf. Thats like like worrying about losing an argument with a Sara Palin.

Another wife bored so she will tank the family and wreck the kids so she can screw 20-something guys until they come to their senses. Sounds like a great plan. They have no money now and soon the lawyers wil have it all and there will two parents with nothing to raise the kids on. She will be then be available to do it again to the next guy....

So sad

Excited Wrote:
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> Excited for you.
>
> You were an idiot for getting married in the first
> place.
>
> Only suckers and insecure people get married.
>
> Enjoy life now. Instead of peanut butter and
> jelly every night you can now have the
> smoogaborder of men.
>
> You can now date and get some excitement back in
> your sex life.

If you wipe our cocks off first, you can avoid getting that smoogaborder on you.

shaggums Wrote:
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> Once you loose the dead weight if you are in
> decent shape and disease free check out Brambleton
> in Ashburn or Victory Lakes in Bristow for a cool
> swingers crowd. They both are friendly towards
> single women looking for a little fun.


You remind me of the grocery stores who want a college degree for a cashiers job.

BiJenny O Wrote:
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> Divorcing my dipshit husband of 21 years.

Your husband has been posting on this forum, trying to convince women, and some men, to meet him for free sex.

So, hang around...

bubs Wrote:
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> What a drama queen... Fears for her safety from a
> man who plays golf.


OJ played golf...just saying. lol.

She'll make it a nasty divorce, turning the children against their Dad so they will always take her side. Then, in their late 20s, early 30s, they will realize what happened, or Dad will tell them and they'll feel betrayed and lose all respect for fat whore mom.