Re: Handicapped tags
Date: October 20, 2006 11:52PM
Gravis Wrote:
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> ffxn8v Wrote:
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> > A few years ago, my wife was diagnosed with
> > cancer. Five months after our daughter was
> born,
> > she had surgery to remove the cancerous tumor
> and
> > shortly after, began aggressive tratments
> > involving chemotherapy and radiation.
>
> did she get pregnant knowing she had cancer? i
> think it would be a bit selfish having a kid
> knowing you may kick the bucket before they are
> old enough to care for themselves.
>
> one thing society doesnt understand or even wants
> to acknowledge is people with disabilities
> actually have a harder time doing some of the
> things people take for granted. people are the
> best!
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On the internet, it is sometimes hard to look through the text to see exactly how you might be judging here - if indeed you were.
With the benefit of doubt given, No, my wife did and I did not plan for her to have cancer nor did we know she was sick at the time of birth of our child.
We planned like a lot of couples do, to have a family. Cancer happened...
After our child was born, my wife noticed her neck was swollen. She went to her dentist for a routine visit and "ohh by the way, is there something going on with my teeth, causing swelling," was a question she asked while there (having had her wisdom teeth pulled years earlier, and that area swelling for a few weeks).
The dentist didn't say a whole lot, other than you should go see your doctor, NOW(!)
After a visit or three, I advised my wife it was time to see a specialist, as out family practice wasn't much help. A visit to the specialist exposed the root of the problem, the tumor in her neck - within two weeks I think, we were scheduled for surgery and the main tumor was removed and tested, leaving much of the rest of her body, still showing similar spots in scans.
My wife and I came to understand terms we never thought we would have to learn or discuss -
The worst part of it all, was the "bedside manners" of her surgeon who said, "more than likely, changes in your hormones during pregnancy brought out the cancer in you."
Never in my life had I been so angered by anothers words!
I agree with you Gravis, about folks taking things for granted. I look at my family and life with a different perspective than I did back before all that - and care less about many things now considered trivial, focusing upon what really matters.
Regards -