i gotta say it somewhere.

those of you who have spouses who at least make a minimal effort to take care of themselves, and don't balloon up to morbidly obese levels of weight with no medical justification other than too damn much unhealthy food, have received a tremendous gift. i hope you are appreciative of it.

How big?

Buy her a weight watchers program for your wedding anniversary.

Please, NO pictures!

I know I'm lucky. My wife is 5-1, 98lbs with 32DDs. At 47, she still has a smoking body. It is a two way street. I show my appreciation in return by staying fit myself.

Life is too short to fuck fat chicks who think they can let themselves go because they think they have you by the short and hairys. If a woman cannot maintain her weight then she needs to either eat less and exercise more or visit an endocrinologist, or both.

Fulfill any parental obligations you may have and move on. You deserve to be happy.

Divorce is an option. You do not have to watch someone kill herself in front of you.

If it bothers you to be married to a whale that was once a hottie, then make that known. Issue an ultimatum that the weight loss needs to begin now. When you see her grab the Ring Dings or that bucket of fried chicken, remind her that you do not want to be married to a disgusting fat person.

Start moving half of your assets to separate accounts or separate piles and begin planning your separation. (Virginia divorce law dictates a 50/50 split so just be realistic and divide your shit down the middle)

If no effort has been made to lose weight after six months, then move out into an apartment. Six months after that you can file for a divorce.

At the end of this process either you will get your hot wife back (because she realized that she had to lose the weight or lose you) or you get to start dating thin people again.

"Life is too short to fuck fat chicks who think they can let themselves go because they think they have you by the short and hairys."


A-FUCKIN-MEN

You took a vow.

"For richer or poorer, in sickness and health till death do us part"

Since morbid obesity is a sickness, you're stuck.

If you DO leave, God will give you cancer.

There are WAY too many women in this world to waste your time with someone that doesn't return your respect to you. If you decide to leave, commit to it and do it.

why the hell do women do this shit? it's not like you wake up one morning and say "oh shit, i'm fat." It take months of eating shit food and not working out. I would fuck a fleshlight before a fat chic anyday of the week.

...you're only interested in this person for sex. God forbid you actually LIKE them, or CARE about them, or anything like that. Otherwise you'd have to deal with, you know, emotions. Which would mean thinking with the big head.

My ex was smoking hot when we were married and used to throw it in
my face like a weapon. You might say she was obsessive about herself.
Last time I saw her a few years ago she was tipping the scales
at around 325. I laughed.

"If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, Never make a pretty woman your wife, So from my personal point of view, Get an ugly girl to marry you."

I know how your wife can lose more than 100 pounds fairly easily. All she has to do is get rid of you. She probably eats to try to forget she is married to such a shallow disgusting ass.

Fortunately Wrote:
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> ...you're only interested in this person for sex.
> God forbid you actually LIKE them, or CARE about
> them, or anything like that. Otherwise you'd have
> to deal with, you know, emotions. Which would mean
> thinking with the big head.

Spoken like a woman.

Remember that the "sons of God" (aka angels) of the Old Testament thought earthly women, the daughters of men were beautiful and took them as wives for themselves. (Genesis 6:1-5)

Which head were they thinking with? It doesn't saying anything in the Bible about these women having great personalities or being good cooks.

Spoken like a FAT woman.

Nephilim Wrote:
> Spoken like a woman.
>
> Remember that the "sons of God" (aka angels) of
> the Old Testament thought earthly women, the
> daughters of men were beautiful and took them as
> wives for themselves. (Genesis 6:1-5)
>
> Which head were they thinking with? It doesn't
> saying anything in the Bible about these women
> having great personalities or being good cooks.

Wow. Just...wow. Thank you for proving your stupidity (I would use the word "ignorance" if it applied here, but it doesn't).

Please don't reproduce.

Dare to be Fat !

http://youtu.be/tqnD11rjrtc

Try walking together for exercise and health. Never see fat couples doing it.

Yeah, I know it sounds selfish. But you know what? So's continuing to choose soda, chips & candy every single day for years instead of thinking, once in awhile, about the happiness of your partner.

Losing weight is hard -- it takes time and sacrifice. But when you just throw your hands up and quit trying -- I don't see how that's any less selfish than the other partner being frustrated by the weight.

fortunately Wrote:
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> Spoken like a FAT woman.


Ding! Confirmed.

Fortunately Wrote:
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>
> Wow. Just...wow. Thank you for proving your
> stupidity (I would use the word "ignorance" if it
> applied here, but it doesn't).
>
> Please don't reproduce.

Wow. Just fucking wow. Thank you for confirming your status as a fat sloppy bitch. Now go have a powdered donut and a burrito.

Fortunately Wrote:
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> Nephilim Wrote:
> > Spoken like a woman.
> >
> > Remember that the "sons of God" (aka angels) of
> > the Old Testament thought earthly women, the
> > daughters of men were beautiful and took them
> as
> > wives for themselves. (Genesis 6:1-5)
> >
> > Which head were they thinking with? It doesn't
> > saying anything in the Bible about these women
> > having great personalities or being good cooks.
>
> Wow. Just...wow. Thank you for proving your
> stupidity (I would use the word "ignorance" if it
> applied here, but it doesn't).
>
> Please don't reproduce.

Fortunately, you are already married to a person who could care less that you are a lazy, fat slob. Or, more likely- and more fortunately; you are not married and you won't reproduce (if it's even possible due to your morbid obesity.

Unfortunately, this country has been brainwashed to accept you fat fks.

Fortunately Wrote:
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> ...you're only interested in this person for sex.
> God forbid you actually LIKE them, or CARE about
> them, or anything like that. Otherwise you'd have
> to deal with, you know, emotions. Which would mean
> thinking with the big head.

The OP didn't say anything about sex. Just because she is far doesn't mean she can't have sex. That is not the problem. He said that she is obease and she doesn't give a shit about her health.

Being fat isn't just a problem of a few extra pounds. It means decreased physical activity, it means bad health problems and probably an early death. When people who were once thin get fat, their whole lifestyle changes. If you are 50 - 100 lbs overweight it means you don't do outdoor activities, it means your clothes don't fit, it means she drops turds the size of a baby's arm.

If she is fat now, its only a matter of time before you have to buy a scooter for her and diabetes testing supplies.

If the OP loves this woman and cares for her, he needs to lay down the law. Get healthy, lose some weight or he needs to get out the door. Marriage is not a prison. If both sides aren't committed to the relationship (and she isn't if she's killing herself with food and no exercise) then he should speak up and tell her that he isn't going to put up with her "lifestyle".

True story.
A friend of mine who lives in a rural area married a slightly
plump woman but it didn't bother him. After a couple of years
she had really put on the pounds and he was starting to get
worried. He asked her how much she weighed and she was furious.
She also refused to disclose her weight in any way, even hiding
her drivers license.

One day they were out and about doing some shopping
and he parked the car on the scale in front of a farm supply store.
She didn't know about the scale and it was usually for weighing trucks
full of grain. He went inside and read the scale then took her
home. He went back later that day and weighed the car without
her in it, subtracted the difference and BINGO! 190 lbs.

Become a Muslim. At least you'll have all those virgins waiting for you after you die.

Nephilim Wrote:
> Ding! Confirmed.

Neither, thank you very much. Dickwad.

Ito Wrote:
> The OP didn't say anything about sex. Just because
> she is far doesn't mean she can't have sex. That
> is not the problem. He said that she is obease and
> she doesn't give a shit about her health.
>
> Being fat isn't just a problem of a few extra
> pounds. It means decreased physical activity, it
> means bad health problems and probably an early
> death. When people who were once thin get fat,
> their whole lifestyle changes. If you are 50 - 100
> lbs overweight it means you don't do outdoor
> activities, it means your clothes don't fit, it
> means she drops turds the size of a baby's arm.
>
> If she is fat now, its only a matter of time
> before you have to buy a scooter for her and
> diabetes testing supplies.
>
> If the OP loves this woman and cares for her, he
> needs to lay down the law. Get healthy, lose some
> weight or he needs to get out the door. Marriage
> is not a prison. If both sides aren't committed to
> the relationship (and she isn't if she's killing
> herself with food and no exercise) then he should
> speak up and tell her that he isn't going to put
> up with her "lifestyle".

Sure, all that's reasonable (if somewhat nastily phrased). But the OP made no hint of any concern for anyone other than itself, so I'd submit that my conclusion was justified.

<< Losing weight is hard >>

That's B.S. I was diagnosed as pre-diabetic 2 months ago. Blood sugar was 110. Lost 20lbs - now blood sugar is 92 (normal). All I did is stop drinking beer and eating bread, cheeze, and junk food. Also started walking the dog for an hour every day. Not a big deal at all.

P.S. I'm 5'9" 168 now.

That's borderline big even for a guy. I knew there was something there behind your attack on the OP. You got about 30 more lbs to go. Time to start RUNNING with the dog and going on a crash diet.

About 40 more lbs to go...

5'9" 168 Wrote:
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> That's borderline big even for a guy. I knew
> there was something there behind your attack on
> the OP. You got about 30 more lbs to go. Time to
> start RUNNING with the dog and going on a crash
> diet.

Oh my - you upset me so much I'm going to sit down with a 6 pack, a big bag of cheetoes, a block of cheese, and garlic bread to drown my sorrows.

The inhumanity!!!

How do you know? Wrote:
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> Nephilim Wrote:
> > Ding! Confirmed.
>
> Neither, thank you very much. Dickwad.

Hmm, yeah. It must be joy to be wedded to you. Quick to judge and quick to insult. Winning combo.

Grossly overweight and a dirty mouth.

The middle age men are all fairly thin while their wives are big fat pigs. What's up with that??

My wife's now ex-sister-in-law did this. She was tiny when she met my brother-in-law and they got married. Soon after she exploded and her favorite color happens to be purple so she looked like that bitch in Charlie and the Chocolate Factory who ate the stick of gum meal. My brother-in-law is a fitness freak so since they were no longer compatible he left her. To make matters worse, at her size you'd figure she'd at least be nice or have a personality to compensate for her lack of physical beauty...but no, she's a nagging, sarcastic mega bitch. So to the OP - it may crush her spirit for you to leave her but you will be better off in the long run. Don't worry about her so much, she'll always have food to comfort her. And probably cats. Lots and lots of cats.

because they don't care, they get fat and stop shaving the gash. The man ends up cheating in every case I know of.

HeavyDuty Wrote:
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> True story.
> A friend of mine who lives in a rural area married
> a slightly
> plump woman but it didn't bother him. After a
> couple of years
> she had really put on the pounds and he was
> starting to get
> worried. He asked her how much she weighed and she
> was furious.
> She also refused to disclose her weight in any
> way, even hiding
> her drivers license.
>
> One day they were out and about doing some
> shopping
> and he parked the car on the scale in front of a
> farm supply store.
> She didn't know about the scale and it was usually
> for weighing trucks
> full of grain. He went inside and read the scale
> then took her
> home. He went back later that day and weighed the
> car without
> her in it, subtracted the difference and BINGO!
> 190 lbs.

Damn! She weighs more than heavyweight champion Rocky Marciano did.

OP:

Most of the above is the worst advice I've ever heard.

I'm a woman and happily married, so I'm wondering about your wife's perspective. She can't be happy with the way she looks, which is probably why she's so defensive about it (exhibit A: your thread's subject line).

I suggest marital counseling, which may lead to counseling for just her. I think it's likely she's eating to fill some unmet emotional need. I've seen that with several of my overweight friends. I'm not suggesting it's your fault in the least, but I do think that your support could be crucial in getting you both where you'd rather be.

My husband and I both have maintained healthy weights for the 20+ years we've been together. I feel sexy, and I find him sexy. A key for us is that we've both always valued good health and make time to exercise, often together.

Fit wife advice Wrote:
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> OP:
>
> Most of the above is the worst advice I've ever
> heard.
>
> I'm a woman and happily married, so I'm wondering
> about your wife's perspective. She can't be happy
> with the way she looks, which is probably why
> she's so defensive about it (exhibit A: your
> thread's subject line).
>
> I suggest marital counseling, which may lead to
> counseling for just her. I think it's likely she's
> eating to fill some unmet emotional need. I've
> seen that with several of my overweight friends.
> I'm not suggesting it's your fault in the least,
> but I do think that your support could be crucial
> in getting you both where you'd rather be.
>
> My husband and I both have maintained healthy
> weights for the 20+ years we've been together. I
> feel sexy, and I find him sexy. A key for us is
> that we've both always valued good health and make
> time to exercise, often together.


Holy shit, some sane, objective advice. I actually agree with the above. However, the OP needs to have some exit criteria for counseling. If his spouse doesn't want help or help herself, there needs to be a line drawn at some point. What amount of change would be acceptable him? Or perhaps is the weight loss an excuse for dismissing a loveless relationship?

Thanks fit wife.

@hank, no real standards or expectations in mind. i think it's the not caring that bothers me as much as anything. the sound of that new bag of chips opening up every night at 10 or 11pm is just damn depressing for what it represents.

i think people tend to get comfortable in marriages, but i also think some people tend to take that a little too far.

maybe counselling is the move.

Perhaps my line in the sand approach is a bit harsh, but I am making assumptions based on the initial post and subject line. If you telling your wife that she needs to lose weight would start WW3, the communication in your marriage is broken.

By all means drag her to counseling is she will go. If she doesn't or counseling doesn't convince her that she needs to change her eating habits and get some exercise, then you need to plan your way out. Perhaps the shock that she might lose you might be the thing that gets her attention.

Damn! She weighs more than heavyweight champion Rocky Marciano did.


Shit, now I'm thinking about being in bed with Rocky Marciano...ewwwwwwww

Divorce her fat ass immediately! In the long term you'll be better off for it. Let the fat sow eat to her hearts content surrounded by cats. If she needs to have a good time, she can go fuck herself with a dildo.

Women's magazines don't celebrate the fat roll female form for a reason.

You guys aren't off of the hook either. Be sure your gut doesn't block the view to your cock.

Agree, this goes both ways, men and woman in a relationship...bottom line is..

If you have a medical problem, we get it..if you don't and just stuff your face with shit food and become a beast, you deserve what you get. no need for that shit if you were once in good shape.

Lordy lordy i lik dem big 40s

Fortunately Wrote:
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> ...you're only interested in this person for sex.
> God forbid you actually LIKE them, or CARE about
> them, or anything like that. Otherwise you'd have
> to deal with, you know, emotions. Which would mean
> thinking with the big head.

lol exactly
I hope OP divorces his wife, or gives her some kind of ultimatum, just so she can see for herself what a living piece of shit he is and dumps him herself.
Fuck you OP. If i got fat someday I'd expect my spouse to continue to care about me as a person and I'd do the same for them. If I was no longer attracted to them, or feared for their health, I'd first try to work out why I felt that way and then talk to a doctor about said spouse, not immediately reduce them to their body and run out because of some macho attitude that you're somehow emasculated if you fuck a fat woman.
I bet you don't look to hot yourself, or your wife would probably care more about HER appearance. People let themselves go when 1. they're too busy to keep up with exercise or 2. their spouse is so dogshit ugly they don't feel the pressure to keep up their own looks. Looks like you didn't get the message on 2 though

FACE!!!

A doctor friend once told me obesity can be explained by legitimate medical or hereditary reasons for only 3% percent of seriously overweight people. The remaining 97% of fatties simply overeat and lead sedentary lifestyles.

I've also noticed a trend in marriages and other long-term relationships. The male tends to maintain or improve his overall health and level of fitness. The woman, on the other hand, tends to balloon and neglect her appearance. This seems to happen in about 90% of marriages. This seems to happen with or without children.

Alpha Male Wrote:
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> A doctor friend once told me obesity can be
> explained by legitimate medical or hereditary
> reasons for only 3% percent of seriously
> overweight people. The remaining 97% of fatties
> simply overeat and lead sedentary lifestyles.
>
> I've also noticed a trend in marriages and other
> long-term relationships. The male tends to
> maintain or improve his overall health and level
> of fitness. The woman, on the other hand, tends to
> balloon and neglect her appearance. This seems to
> happen in about 90% of marriages. This seems to
> happen with or without children.

nice fake fucking statistics buddy can either of you back those claims up with some empirical evidence or are you just full of shit as i suspect?
any time someone sites a statistic in the 90% range it's bound to be bullshit

Kiji Wrote:
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> Alpha Male Wrote:
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> > A doctor friend once told me obesity can be
> > explained by legitimate medical or hereditary
> > reasons for only 3% percent of seriously
> > overweight people. The remaining 97% of fatties
> > simply overeat and lead sedentary lifestyles.
> >
> > I've also noticed a trend in marriages and
> other
> > long-term relationships. The male tends to
> > maintain or improve his overall health and
> level
> > of fitness. The woman, on the other hand, tends
> to
> > balloon and neglect her appearance. This seems
> to
> > happen in about 90% of marriages. This seems to
> > happen with or without children.
>
> nice fake fucking statistics buddy can either of
> you back those claims up with some empirical
> evidence or are you just full of shit as i
> suspect?
> any time someone sites a statistic in the 90%
> range it's bound to be bullshit

First, I'm not your buddy. You're a douchebag. I would say a PRACTICING PHYSICIAN'S statement trumps your stupid rant. Common sense (something you lack) should tell you that in the vast majority of instances, a balanced diet and exercise will prevent obesity. I suspect you are just a big fat piece of shit who justifies his/her obesity as "genetics." Fuck off.

*yawn*

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> > hi
>
>
> *yawn*

*kisses your boot*

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> >
> >
> > *yawn*
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> *kisses your boot*

**YAWN***

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you think THAT'S a fat wife? that's about the average size of a lady in the US today
here's a fat wife/skinny hubby for ya
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I like me some cushion on a woman.

Alpha Male Wrote:
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>
> First, I'm not your buddy. You're a douchebag. I
> would say a PRACTICING PHYSICIAN'S statement
> trumps your stupid rant. Common sense (something
> you lack) should tell you that in the vast
> majority of instances, a balanced diet and
> exercise will prevent obesity. I suspect you are
> just a big fat piece of shit who justifies his/her
> obesity as "genetics." Fuck off.

A "balanced diet" has nothing to do with losing or gaining weight, but certainly a "sensible diet" and exercise does. You could eat potato chips and and pizza everyday and maintain or lose weight. It's all about caloric intake and expenditure.

http://www.cnn.com/2010/HEALTH/11/08/twinkie.diet.professor/index.html

If you average 50 calories per day over your budget, you'll gain 4 to 5 pounds per year. It doesn't matter if you're a man or a woman, fast metabolism or slow, or if you go to the gym and work your ass off every day on the treadmill. And 3500 calories make up a pound of fat.

Most Americans haven't a fucking clue how much food they should be consuming on a daily basis. How many bored housewives, or husbands for that matter go way over their caloric needs each and every day?

A good read on the subject for those with their heads up their asses and blame their weight gain on genetics, metabolism or too many carbs: http://www.leangains.com/2010/02/occams-razor.html

Former Fat Boy, et al...

This isn't about a woman who is trying to lose weight but can't. The OP has written that she opens bags of potato chips at 11 pm.

We are talking a wife who feels entitled to become a fat slob.

This easily can become a thread about what a giant tub of lard this country has become. When I look at photos of the public that were taken 25 years ago, I long for the good ol days. I would hate to be on the dating scene today. It used to be that you would have a few people here and there who were tubby or out of shape. Now your choice is between the obese and the morbidly obese.

I'm 47 and 130 on a fat day. I don't even let myself get 5 lbs overweight before backin down on the chow. I care about myself a lot. I like me. My observation is that people, in general, don't care about the right things. They either need to have a near death experience, or hold the hand of death before they get it.

Life is so, so precious. To live it, you have to be healthy. When you are healthy, you feel good. When you feel good, you make others feel good. When you make others feel good you feel so damn good that you want more of that. It shows at home, at work, and your every day life.

I feel bad for OP because there is a lot to his post. He's not happy, his wife is clearly not happy and no one is doing anything about (it sounds like). So yes, that will be his life and what a terrible way to spend your life. It does not sound like there is love there.

Bottom line, sh*t or get off the pot. Help her fix herself, fix yourself or get out. And lastly, live a good life. As a good person. If all you are doing is standing by and not helping your wife, what exactly is your role? Is everything supposed to be on auto-pilot to keep running in your life? Live a good, moral, clean, thoughtful, caring life. This right here is an example that you need to fix a few things starting with you. You're just not happy man. Get started.

Ito Wrote:
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> Former Fat Boy, et al...
>
> This isn't about a woman who is trying to lose
> weight but can't. The OP has written that she
> opens bags of potato chips at 11 pm.
>
> We are talking a wife who feels entitled to become
> a fat slob.
>
> This easily can become a thread about what a giant
> tub of lard this country has become. When I look
> at photos of the public that were taken 25 years
> ago, I long for the good ol days. I would hate to
> be on the dating scene today. It used to be that
> you would have a few people here and there who
> were tubby or out of shape. Now your choice is
> between the obese and the morbidly obese.

I agree. My point is that it is a slippery slope. An extra 50 calories seems trivial to most people. If the relationship is unfulfilling soon they're saying "My marriage is shit, fuck it, I'm depressed. I'm gonna have a donut and sit on my ass and surf the interwebz." One thing leads to another and you have snowball effect. An unhappy housewife can quickly slip into a state of depression compounded by resentment and low self esteem. Then you have fat bitter cow on your hands that can't face herself or her mate and can only find solace in a bag of chips.

Over and out.

I've got one word for any guy considering marriage: Asian women. Unlike white, black, or hispanic cows, you rarely see obese Asian women. No surprise that most women you see at fitness centers are Asian. They have a much stronger tendency to take care of themselves.

Every time my high school has a class reunion some of us guys have
a secret contest.


The girls don't know anything about this. :)

Categories are:

1) Which girl we graduated with has the biggest ass.

2) Which guy we graduated with brought a date with the biggest ass.

3) Which one of our secret club brought a date with the best ass.


In category #2, one guy won hands down for years but at the last
reunion (30th) one of our fellow grads beat him so bad he's afraid
to enter the contest anymore. He was crushed in defeat. She had to
turn sideways to get through the door.

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The OP has no control over his wife, but he has control over himself. If he is that unhappy, leave. If he doesn't want to leave, learn to live with it. There's really no in-between.

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yes, it's called going to backpage and bang a hot woman. all of you fat whales or beast women look out, no man want's your fat ass. stop eating shit food and lose the weight.

Resignedtofate, I'm sorry to hear about your inconsiderate wife. You're in a difficult situation and I do not blame you for needing to vent.

Why '[resign]tofate' though? Surely there is someone else--someone thin-- sexually interested in you right now.

Second marriage. First time I was young trying to do the right thing. I loved her, but she didn't love me equally. Second time is a charm. No such thing as perfection, but I knew what I had and still have. Rules were put on the table from both sides. I knew I was in love for life. My wife has put on some weight, but it's NOT fat trailer park white chick weight. A week or 2 without fried chicken and she's good ta go. lol. I told her I dont mind if she blows up....thats mine for the rest of my life...120 or 320....Im still hittin that....I just may have to layout some powder to find the wet spot and light some incense to hide the stank...lmao.



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I know I'm lucky Wrote:
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> I know I'm lucky. My wife is 5-1, 98lbs

No you're not lucky. That bitch is anorexic and needs to fkn eat. Unless you enjoy fucking a broom stick.

I think your post was the whole problem: you gotta tell her. We arent just robots. We actually do have dicks and if your girl disgusts you, you gotta speak up...for his sake!

I weigh what I weighed in high school, 26 years ago. I'm proud of that, considering that I have had three children. I do not have the same body that I did (wider waist, not as bony through my pelvic area and gravity has taken its toll). All that said, I was raised by a very petite, slender and glamorous mom who looks incredible as she nears 80.

My mom's advise was (and still is), do not LET yourself gain five pounds and you'll never have to lose five pounds, ten pounds, etc. Watch the scale. Know your body. Eat like a pig one day? Fine, the next day, eat lighter and be a bit more active. Pay attention to your body's hunger cues. Eat small meals throughout the day. Do not let yourself get too hungry.

Also, any truth in the tale that men should check out the mom of the girl he plans to marry? If her mom is fat, well then...consider yourself warned. A fat mom could explain a genetic predisposition to obesity, even middle-age spread. It may indicate family eating habits, sedentary lifestyle, values, etc.

I'l say it - it often is a "class" thing. It is often expected among blue collar/lower middle class that a woman will gain weight as she gets older, eventually turning into a prototypical grandmother. Upper middle class (or wannabees) strive to maintain a level of fitness because their peers do, to maintain a professional appearance and because they want to fit into single digit designer clothes.