Okay so we've dated a couple of years, live together and are a young urban couple in a small apartment, both in our 20's. Lately I've noticed that when he gets home sometimes he will go straight to the shower without coming near me. He sorta had some strange calls the last couple of days. I really don't have any direct evidence, but sort of a womens intuition about our intimacy in the sheets and other little behavioral things.

Now I'm not going to hire a detective or tail him in the car or set up a video camera. But does anyone know of a non-confrontational non-psycho way of finding out if he is having an affair?

On an offnote which may not be related, I've found some sex toy that is shaped like a flashlight and has what appears to be an artificial vagina next to a big bottle of lube. Revolted as I am by this, I don't know what to think of it and didn't even want to touch the icky thing.

Hey Kitty/Katy,

Give him a surprise hummer before he can hit the shower! One lick and you'll know for sure!

He may be just holding that fleshlight for a friend. Put some tabasco or habanero sauce in the lube bottle.

If you have doubts and you are young get out now.

Men will fuck anything. True. They think with their dick.

If you have doubts and you are young get out now.
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I'm not ready to sever the relationship yet. Our circle of friends is too entangled and we get along with each others parents. I need to know for sure if he is intimate with another girl. I can handle physical cheating but if he has deeper feelings that is a problem.

I can't help you until you post some pics of yourself. If your hot then you have nothing to worry about. But if your frumpy and bulging, time to warm up your index finger, cuz girlfriend you're in for a lonely night. LOL

2 options:

1. Play detective yourself and try to do some surveillance. Like try to stay far away and not suspicious to attract the curiosity of others that may or may not alert him....dress like a mooslum woman with a head scarf or a bonnet.....

2. Just ask him nicely, remember to look at his eyes. Tell him how you feel and why this is important....than after he leaves for work or a quick hummer behind target, get your stuff and leave. I mean leave, and dont look back.

And to the 'true' lying whore, not all men are scumbags. Indeed, I do think with my dick, however, that is usually when I'm all stuck up inside my loving wife, that I have never cheated on.

Posted by: Doctor Dirty Fingers ()

If your hot then you have nothing to worry about. But if your frumpy and bulging, time to warm up your index finger

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Ummm, I've been doing yoga and kegel for years and can wrap my legs behind my head. Are there any normal people on this forum?

Go to Hard Times in Fairfax on a random Wednesday, go sit at the bar and give some lucky guy a good night. You make the first move.....

That will ease the pain of finding out if your man is dogging some hoes on the side...

For those who keep asking how I look, I've been compared to Ali Larter but I am a few years younger than her :-P

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If you really look like that and he's cheating on you then either he's Brad Pitt and can nail anything he wants, or he's smoking pole. Just sayin'. Either way, time to go.

As for strange calls, see if you can check out his mobile phone while he's in the shower washing her stuff off him. Just hit recent calls and snap a picture of the list with your phone so you can study it later.

Thank you Alias and justsayin for adult responces.

Certainly someone has some ideas how to confirm if someone is running around on you though? I'm looking for more than just "leave him" or "check his phone".

Ring a bell?

http://t2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSo5c3jvPf_vo7ZVebTFNNAiw-ssgnQZ53rCKb2_CNLdqxcqrxk

dumb bitch Wrote:
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> this thread is fake. you are all dumbasses. this
> was started by the same person who started the
> dating a stripper post lmao


Clearly. Who the fuck would refer to themselves as "a young urban couple"?

Here you go you dried up canyon Vagi.....

poopstick Wrote:
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> dumb bitch Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > this thread is fake. you are all dumbasses.
> this
> > was started by the same person who started the
> > dating a stripper post lmao
>
>
> Clearly. Who the fuck would refer to themselves as
> "a young urban couple"?




Or maybe they shop exclusively at Urban Outfitters?

"a young urban couple"?

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It means a couple from an affluent suburban or city area and not some trailer or backwoods bible trash numbnuts!

You have way too much time on your hands. Perhaps you could use this time to come up with an idea on how to determine if their significant other is cheating?

KTY84 Wrote:
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> Thank you Alias and justsayin for adult responces.
>
>
> Certainly someone has some ideas how to confirm if
> someone is running around on you though? I'm
> looking for more than just "leave him" or "check
> his phone".


You said you didn't want to follow him around but that's what you'll have to do if you won't just ask him and see what his reaction is. What kind of answer is going to work with you? "Go ask a psychic"?

being that you are sitting here looking for answers, KTY84, he is probably getting a double header as we type.

Listen get a gym membership, lose about 125lbs, and get to the local meat markets and get some.

He is asleep. He works very early mornings. I'm just sitting here stirring by the PC with the tv on low volume wondering what is going on. He didn't even give me much attention tonight. He just watched an hour of tv then went to bed. He used to carry me to bed and make love to me. Gone are those days.

KTY84 Wrote:
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> Okay so we've dated a couple of years, live
> together and are a young urban couple in a small
> apartment, both in our 20's. Lately I've noticed
> that when he gets home sometimes he will go
> straight to the shower without coming near me. He
> sorta had some strange calls the last couple of
> days. I really don't have any direct evidence,
> but sort of a womens intuition about our intimacy
> in the sheets and other little behavioral things.
>
> Now I'm not going to hire a detective or tail him
> in the car or set up a video camera. But does
> anyone know of a non-confrontational non-psycho
> way of finding out if he is having an affair?
>
> On an offnote which may not be related, I've found
> some sex toy that is shaped like a flashlight and
> has what appears to be an artificial vagina next
> to a big bottle of lube. Revolted as I am by
> this, I don't know what to think of it and didn't
> even want to touch the icky thing.


Asking him outright is not confrontational. And hiring a dtective
or investigating yourself is not psycho behavior.Be proactive

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KTY84 Wrote:
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> "a young urban couple"?
>
> _____
> It means a couple from an affluent suburban or
> city area and not some trailer or backwoods bible
> trash numbnuts!
>
> You have way too much time on your hands. Perhaps
> you could use this time to come up with an idea on
> how to determine if their significant other is
> cheating?


You could always ask FFU's self proclaimed troll.

Sure, we’ll tell you what to do, but you must show us yo’ titties foist.

Maybe.

I'm in the same boat.

Dating the same girl for over 2 years.

Living together.

Etc.

I've never cheated.

<.<

>.>

O.o

Kty, Unfortunately I think you already have your answer, and you know it, but you're hoping to find out that you're wrong.

Nonetheless, here is what professionals do: Well first, here's what they do NOT do: they do not confront people in their faces like on TV, badgering them into confessing. Instead, they get on the same team with the person they are questioning. In your case, that means letting your BF know that it's okay with you if he's cheated on you in the past, or is cheating now. You tell him, you just need him to be honest. Tell him you can look past the cheating, you understand why he would do it, it's normal for guys, you've been distant, etc. Tell him, "I can get past the cheating, but I won't be able to get past you lying to me now, so you need to tell the truth." Now, this is all BS, you are lying to him so he will hopefully confess. Then you will have your confession and can ditch his cheating ass. If he's smart and a cheating a-hole, he probably will continue to deny, deny.

Also, you can throw in that you have evidence of him cheating, very solid and irrefutable evidence, and you just need him to be truthful so you can move past it. It's not important that you don't really have solid evidence, you let him think you do, and refuse to reveal what you know (or don't know) when he asks. Tell him you're leaving him unless he's honest and 'fesses up. When he asks, just keep saying, it's not important what the evidence is, what IS important is that you be honest with me now.

Then PLEASE dump him if/when he confesses. He will do it again, I promise.

Fuck you and your homeless cheating boyfriend!

aaaaaa Wrote:
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> Kty, Unfortunately I think you already have your
> answer, and you know it, but you're hoping to find
> out that you're wrong.
>
> Nonetheless, here is what professionals do: Well
> first, here's what they do NOT do: they do not
> confront people in their faces like on TV,
> badgering them into confessing. Instead, they get
> on the same team with the person they are
> questioning. In your case, that means letting your
> BF know that it's okay with you if he's cheated on
> you in the past, or is cheating now. You tell him,
> you just need him to be honest. Tell him you can
> look past the cheating, you understand why he
> would do it, it's normal for guys, you've been
> distant, etc. Tell him, "I can get past the
> cheating, but I won't be able to get past you
> lying to me now, so you need to tell the truth."
> Now, this is all BS, you are lying to him so he
> will hopefully confess. Then you will have your
> confession and can ditch his cheating ass. If he's
> smart and a cheating a-hole, he probably will
> continue to deny, deny.
>
> Also, you can throw in that you have evidence of
> him cheating, very solid and irrefutable evidence,
> and you just need him to be truthful so you can
> move past it. It's not important that you don't
> really have solid evidence, you let him think you
> do, and refuse to reveal what you know (or don't
> know) when he asks. Tell him you're leaving him
> unless he's honest and 'fesses up. When he asks,
> just keep saying, it's not important what the
> evidence is, what IS important is that you be
> honest with me now.
>
> Then PLEASE dump him if/when he confesses. He will
> do it again, I promise.


Solid advice.