Re: Friendzoned again, WHAT TO DO?
Date: July 29, 2020 12:24AM
Dating 101 Wrote:
> The woman does not friendzone the man. The man
> friendzones himself when he keeps trying to go
> after the woman after she's decided she is not
> Women make their minds up early whether a guy is
> potential dating material.
> Once a woman decides a guy isn't potential
> dating material she is unlikely to change her mind
> if he persists. She will instead either naively
> assume or cynically pretend the guy is treating
> her well simply because he's a "nice guy". The
> more manipulative women will even feign shock if
> the man chooses to stop treating them like
> goddesses when the woman shows no desire to
> partner up with him.
Some of what you say is right, but some of my exp. is diff. Like OP & some others, I was relegatory material to the Friend Zone. The women would go out w/me, hell, they even made it plain they were interested in going out w/me, but after the date, the invite up never came or when it did, she gave me a beer then tossed me. After about the third woman like this, I got wise. OK, so maybe on the first couple of dates they're not going to give you any, but, after a few more times it's the same thing, well, they call doing the same thing over & over & expecting different results insanity. Obviously, I was insane. So after 2 dates like this with the same woman, I'd stop calling. Some of them used to call me & wonder why I'd stopped calling. I made up some BS excuse. I'm not going to waste my time & money on some broad who doesn't think I'm good enough for them.
Eventually, in my mid 20s, I found one who thought I was good enough. I think she settled for me, at first, but maybe not. She was a career woman and somewhat older than me. She woke up one day and realized it was 6 min to midnite on the biological clock so if she wanted a couple of kids, she'd best find a sperm donor fast. I was the first thing she saw who showed even mild interest, so it was me, in the end.
There was this 1 girl, though, who I didn't get. I met her after I got wise. She minces no words about wanting to go out w/me. OK. First date, invite up, gives me a beer, tosses me. OK; 1st date. @nd date, going good, invite up, gives me a beer, I see nothing's happening, get my hat & coat, she asks me to stay. OK, maybe something IS going to happen, here. She gives me another beer and goes into the "nice guy" speech 1 of these guys mentioned & how she'll always value our firendship & blahblahblah, I've heard this BS since I was in HS, I don't believe it no more but I let her finish. I grab my coat & hat, make my excuses and VAMOOSE. Another 1 to cross of the list. So she keeps calling me & I keep making excuses. She gets persistent. I can't figure out WTF does this broad want? If she ain't opening her legs, I ain't interested no more.
She finally runs into me at an expensive coffee joint on a Sat. aft. She wants to know why I'm avoiding her & won't go out w/her & what's wrong w/her & all this BS. So I let her have it w/out the candy coat.
"Ain't nothin' wrong w/you, sweetie, not at all, it's me & you made that clear when you gave me that 'nice guy' speech in your apt & Friend Zoned me. See, honey, guys like me hear that BS all the time. By this time, we know what you're saying is we ain't good enough for you. Look, I'm trying to get a GF, here, so I'm going to use my time to reach that goal. I'm not wasting my time, esources & money on someone who's not heading that way w/me. Now, you're a nice lady & fun to hang out with & when baseball season starts if you want to go to a game, great, but, that's not till Apr., so I'm gonna see what I can line up before that."
She was mad I called her on her shit.