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Texting rudeness
Posted by: Annoyed ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:01PM

I've been thinking that as the newness of texting wore off, most people would probably remember that it isn't okay to ignore a person you are with, in favor of idly chatting with someone who isn't. Now I'm starting to think I may have been wrong about that. The problem seems worst in groups of people, which bothers me less, but I have some friends who just can't seem to put the damn phone down, even when engaged in one-on-one conversation.

I've tried a few techniques for dealing with this, the most effective being that I stop talking in mid-sentence as soon as they start. When they eventually notice and say 'Go ahead, I'm listening,' I just respond 'That's okay, I'll wait till you finish.' I repeat this as necessary.

I'm considering walking the next time it happens. Just standing up, settling my bill if we're out, and telling the offender to give me a call when it's more convenient.

Anybody have other strategies that they find work well?

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Re: Texting rudeness
Date: March 10, 2010 01:03PM

Annoyed Wrote:
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> Anybody have other strategies that they find work
> well?


Stop associating with inconsiderate assholes?

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Gonads & Strife ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:05PM

I try not to be so boring that the person who I'm with starts texting instead of paying attention to our conversation. Seems to work pretty well.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Annoyed ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:05PM

That's my fall-back strategy if all else fails.

WashingTone-Locian Wrote:
>
> Stop associating with inconsiderate assholes?

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:06PM

Annoyed Wrote:
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> I've been thinking that as the newness of texting
> wore off, most people would probably remember that
> it isn't okay to ignore a person you are with....



Unfortunately, texting isn't going anywhere anytime soon, and the distracted, obnoxious people driving aren't either.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Johnny Walker ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:08PM

I think people tend to do this because it seems on the surface to be less rude than making a phone call. It's not, it just seems less disruptive to the situation since they aren't making noise I guess. It's only getting worse now that everyone has iPhones and such. You are fighting a losing battle, I'm afraid.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Date: March 10, 2010 01:08PM

What's worse is when people answer their cell phone in the middle of a conversation and begin to have a discussion. I think that shit pisses me off more than the texting.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:10PM

WashingTone-Locian Wrote:
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> What's worse is when people answer their cell
> phone in the middle of a conversation and begin to
> have a discussion. I think that shit pisses me off
> more than the texting.


Or, going back to the bitchy people at Starbucks, the people that get a phone call right as they reach the counter and hold up their finger to the cashier as if no one else is in line.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:11PM

Johnny Walker Wrote:
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> I think people tend to do this because it seems on
> the surface to be less rude than making a phone
> call. It's not, it just seems less disruptive to
> the situation since they aren't making noise I
> guess. It's only getting worse now that everyone
> has iPhones and such. You are fighting a losing
> battle, I'm afraid.



People using blackberries in meetings are obnoxious as well.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Friend of Annoyed ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:15PM

JUST HANGIN W/ A FRIEND. HES BEING A WHINEY A-HOLE 4 SURE.

CU LATER WHEN I DITCH THE COCKGBBLR

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Annoyed ()
Date: March 10, 2010 01:23PM

Trust me, I don't have friends who type in all caps. But, as I recently told a friend who frequently does this, it is optional for us to hang out. If whoever you are texting with is more interesting, then by all means please do go.

Friend of Annoyed Wrote:
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> JUST HANGIN W/ A FRIEND. HES BEING A WHINEY A-HOLE
> 4 SURE.
>
> CU LATER WHEN I DITCH THE COCKGBBLR

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Warhawk ()
Date: March 10, 2010 02:19PM

Annoyed Wrote:
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> I've been thinking that as the newness of texting
> wore off, most people would probably remember that
> it isn't okay to ignore a person you are with, in
> favor of idly chatting with someone who isn't.
> Now I'm starting to think I may have been wrong
> about that. The problem seems worst in groups of
> people, which bothers me less, but I have some
> friends who just can't seem to put the damn phone
> down, even when engaged in one-on-one
> conversation.
>
> I've tried a few techniques for dealing with this,
> the most effective being that I stop talking in
> mid-sentence as soon as they start. When they
> eventually notice and say 'Go ahead, I'm
> listening,' I just respond 'That's okay, I'll wait
> till you finish.' I repeat this as necessary.
>
> I'm considering walking the next time it happens.
> Just standing up, settling my bill if we're out,
> and telling the offender to give me a call when
> it's more convenient.
>
> Anybody have other strategies that they find work
> well?



First off, quit hanging around my wife. I assume you are, because she does this. It's so fucking annoying. I do what you do - stop what I'm doing and tell her to let me know when she's able to focus on what's going on in front of her. It seems to work - until the next time. :-)

Secondly, another thing that annoys me is when people have a secondary conversation when on the phone. Again my wife will have these side conversations with her co-workers when I call to ask her something. I just hang up. Then she'll call back and ask "why did you hang up?" - and I answer "you were busy talking to someone else, it can wait until I get home. Later". It seems to work until she falls off the wagon a few days later.

Technology has made people rude.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Gravis ()
Date: March 10, 2010 06:56PM

Warhawk Wrote:
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> First off, quit hanging around my wife. I assume
> you are, because she does this. It's so fucking
> annoying. I do what you do - stop what I'm doing
> and tell her to let me know when she's able to
> focus on what's going on in front of her. It
> seems to work - until the next time. :-)
>
> Secondly, another thing that annoys me is when
> people have a secondary conversation when on the
> phone. Again my wife will have these side
> conversations with her co-workers when I call to
> ask her something. I just hang up. Then she'll
> call back and ask "why did you hang up?" - and I
> answer "you were busy talking to someone else, it
> can wait until I get home. Later". It seems to
> work until she falls off the wagon a few days
> later.
>
> Technology has made people rude.



technology has done nothing to make people rude. what it has done is offered them new ways to be rude. your wife is rude, dont blame it on technology.


"the wisdom of the wise will perish, the intelligence of the intelligent will vanish."095042938540

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Warhawk ()
Date: March 10, 2010 07:25PM

Gravis Wrote:
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> Warhawk Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > First off, quit hanging around my wife. I
> assume
> > you are, because she does this. It's so
> fucking
> > annoying. I do what you do - stop what I'm
> doing
> > and tell her to let me know when she's able to
> > focus on what's going on in front of her. It
> > seems to work - until the next time. :-)
> >
> > Secondly, another thing that annoys me is when
> > people have a secondary conversation when on
> the
> > phone. Again my wife will have these side
> > conversations with her co-workers when I call
> to
> > ask her something. I just hang up. Then
> she'll
> > call back and ask "why did you hang up?" - and
> I
> > answer "you were busy talking to someone else,
> it
> > can wait until I get home. Later". It seems
> to
> > work until she falls off the wagon a few days
> > later.
> >
> > Technology has made people rude.
>
>
> technology has done nothing to make people rude.
> what it has done is offered them new ways to be
> rude. your wife is rude, dont blame it on
> technology.


Gravis - not only has it given them more ways to be rude, it's given them easier ways to be rude. Going with the texting rudeness theme of this thread - having that "almost instant" communication technology in your pocket makes it easier to simply be careless with manners and not maliciously/consciously rude.

Back when people communicated only by lan line phones, if you got a phone call while talking to someone in person, you would say "excuse me, I have to take this" or make the phone call wait until you finished with your conversation. You weren't getting any phone calls at a restaurant, at the grocery, or at a meeting. Now people are just to quick to pull a phone out of their pocket and take a call or send a text. Why? Because it's actually harder NOT to communicate. I see people in meetings all the time emailing, texting, or answering phone calls. It's crazy.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: MrMephisto ()
Date: March 10, 2010 07:52PM

I personally don't care as long as the person is actually still paying attention. The technology was made so we could remain in constant communication with each other. Multi-tasking has become a way of life.

If my phone buzzes while I'm talking to someone, I have to resist the urge to pull it out and look at it immediately. I'd bet a lot people do that often enough when they're NOT in a conversation that it just becomes habit.

If I'm comfortable with the person I'm talking to, and we're not discussing anything serious or important, I'll check and respond if the message is more important than what we're talking about. I don't think if it's rude if a friend texts while we're just bullshitting.

If I was on a date, I wouldn't even look at my phone in the middle of a conversation. My opinion of my date would drop if she did.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Date: March 10, 2010 07:58PM

MrMephisto Wrote:
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> I personally don't care as long as the person is
> actually still paying attention. The technology
> was made so we could remain in constant
> communication with each other. Multi-tasking has
> become a way of life.
>
> If my phone buzzes while I'm talking to someone, I
> have to resist the urge to pull it out and look at
> it immediately. I'd bet a lot people do that
> often enough when they're NOT in a conversation
> that it just becomes habit.
>
> If I'm comfortable with the person I'm talking to,
> and we're not discussing anything serious or
> important, I'll check and respond if the message
> is more important than what we're talking about.
> I don't think if it's rude if a friend texts while
> we're just bullshitting.
>
> If I was on a date, I wouldn't even look at my
> phone in the middle of a conversation. My opinion
> of my date would drop if she did.


I will check my phone but usually just put it into voicemail. If it's my wife, I may answer it just to make sure it's not an emergency and then tell her I will call her back. If I do need to take the call, I excuse myself and leave the room instead of having a conversation in front of the person I was just talking to.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: MrMephisto ()
Date: March 10, 2010 08:01PM

I thought we were talking about just texting. Yeah, you don't interrupt one conversation to have another right in the middle.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: inkahootz ()
Date: March 10, 2010 08:22PM

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Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/01/2010 01:33AM by inkahootz.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Alias ()
Date: March 10, 2010 08:32PM

People in grocery stores, loudly talking on their cell phones, while standing right next to me, in the produce area......that drives me crazy.

I'm trying to think, do I need tomatoes, how much garlic do I have, but cell mouth- that's what I call them- won't let me think.

Here's what I do. I start humming and half singing, in a distracted, I don't realize I'm singing kind of way...and, at the same volume as cell mouth.

Usually, cell mouth moves away. Sometimes, though, cell mouth looks at me as if I'm the one with the problem.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: inkahootz ()
Date: March 10, 2010 08:40PM

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Edited 1 time(s). Last edit at 06/01/2010 01:19AM by inkahootz.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Registered Voter ()
Date: March 10, 2010 10:21PM

Bluetooth headsets for cell phones have made it so you can't tell who the street people are anymore unless you are downwind of them. You can never tell if the guy walking past you talking in a loud, animated voice is a loon, or just angry at someone on the phone. To all intents unless you see the blue light shining in their ear - you would never know.

If you can’t model the past, where you know the answer pretty well, how can you model the future? - William Happer Cyrus Fogg Brackett Professor of Physics Princeton University

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Registered Voter ()
Date: March 10, 2010 10:50PM

And evidently here is what happens...

Moviegoer Tells Woman to Stop Talking On Cell Phone, Gets Stabbed in the Neck
http://www.nbclosangeles.com/news/local-beat/Moviegoer-Tells-Woman-to-Stop-Talking-On-Cell-Phone-Gets-Stabbed-in-the-Neck-87144462.html
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A woman talking on a cell phone during a movie didn't take kindly to being "shushed" by another moviegoer. Or at least her boyfriend didn't.

In a drama that turned more lively than the one on screen -- "Shutter Island" -- the boyfriend allegedly attacked and stabbed the "shusher" in the neck with a meat thermometer. Sheriff's spokesman Steve Whitmore said the stabbing occured Saturday during a screening of the Martin Scorsese film.
...

If you can’t model the past, where you know the answer pretty well, how can you model the future? - William Happer Cyrus Fogg Brackett Professor of Physics Princeton University

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 10, 2010 11:03PM

Registered Voter Wrote:
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> And evidently here is what happens...
>


LOL I fucking hate people that talk or text while watching a movie. You just paid $10 to watch a movie, there is no need to be on your phone.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Alias ()
Date: March 11, 2010 12:54AM

eesh Wrote:
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> I fucking hate people that talk or text while
> watching a movie. You just paid $10 to watch a
> movie, there is no need to be on your phone.


People talking during a movie.
The chewing sounds of the talkers taking a popcorn break.
The crinkling static from someone behind me unwrapping candy.
People laughing when something isn't funny.
People standing up to leave, the moment a movie ends...blocking my view of the credits.

The list goes on.

I have a hard time in movie theatres.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: bloody blisters ()
Date: March 11, 2010 01:55AM

so it is now common practice to bring meat thermometers to the movies these days? you guys just completely ignored it like you see it everyday, strange.



i am a fairly patient and understanding person. if somebody feels the need to text or talk during our conversation i let it go. it used to bother me, and my old method was to talk really quickly and when they would half assedly mumble 'what was that?' i would just continue on like they were a part of the conversation.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Alias ()
Date: March 11, 2010 02:57AM

bloody blisters Wrote:
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> i am a fairly patient and understanding person.

I sense that.

> if somebody feels the need to text or talk during our
> conversation i let it go.

You are patience personified.

> it used to bother me,
> and my old method was to talk really quickly and
> when they would half assedly mumble 'what was
> that?' i would just continue on like they were a
> part of the conversation.

Ha! This method is far more appealing to me.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: old school ()
Date: March 11, 2010 05:58AM

a persons IQ is directly related to their fascination with their cell phone.

ever see people endlessly scrolling through their phone and thinking they look like they are doing something important. lol

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Gravis ()
Date: March 11, 2010 09:40AM

bloody blisters Wrote:
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> so it is now common practice to bring meat
> thermometers to the movies these days? you guys
> just completely ignored it like you see it
> everyday, strange.


my conclusion was that the rude and violent couple were from ghettosburg. methinks in prison, this guy learned that anything an everything is a weapon.


"the wisdom of the wise will perish, the intelligence of the intelligent will vanish."095042938540

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 11, 2010 11:53AM

bloody blisters Wrote:
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> so it is now common practice to bring meat
> thermometers to the movies these days? you guys
> just completely ignored it like you see it
> everyday, strange.
>


LOL I was still trying to figure out who would stab somebody because they were shushed in a theater.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: eesh ()
Date: March 11, 2010 11:54AM

Alias Wrote:
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>

> The chewing sounds of the talkers taking a
> popcorn break.



Don't forget people that shake their popcorn bag endlessly during the movie. I hate that sound.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: ThePackLeader ()
Date: March 15, 2010 08:20PM

At least you get to see your inconsiderate friend. One of my best friends has recently turned into a coochy whipped bitch, and he's ignoring all of his friends now. Two of us were joking about one of his photos on FB yesterday, leaving funny comments like we used to always do. Instead of replying this time though, he came online, changed his status to "In a relationship with...", and he deleted all of his photos. Yeah...

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: Gravis ()
Date: March 15, 2010 09:38PM

ThePackLeader Wrote:
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> At least you get to see your inconsiderate friend.
> One of my best friends has recently turned into a
> coochy whipped bitch, and he's ignoring all of his
> friends now. Two of us were joking about one of
> his photos on FB yesterday, leaving funny comments
> like we used to always do. Instead of replying
> this time though, he came online, changed his
> status to "In a relationship with...", and he
> deleted all of his photos. Yeah...


you use facebook.

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Re: Texting rudeness
Posted by: ThePackLeader ()
Date: March 15, 2010 09:54PM

Gravis Wrote:
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> ThePackLeader Wrote:
> --------------------------------------------------
> -----
> > At least you get to see your inconsiderate
> friend.
> > One of my best friends has recently turned into
> a
> > coochy whipped bitch, and he's ignoring all of
> his
> > friends now. Two of us were joking about one of
> > his photos on FB yesterday, leaving funny
> comments
> > like we used to always do. Instead of replying
> > this time though, he came online, changed his
> > status to "In a relationship with...", and he
> > deleted all of his photos. Yeah...
>
>
> you use facebook.
>
>


LOL, of course I do. It's the best way to keep in touch with my old classmates, and to connect with some networks (Especially with deployed MIL whom I know). I'm not the type of person who updates and narrates every 5 minutes of my life on there though.

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