Sociopaths think and behave differently from most of us, and they generally believe their
way of thinking is right.
Sociopaths exist not only in the real world - at work, in the neighborhood - but also
in online forums such as this one.
Indeed, a forum like Fairfax Underground, characterized by fewer rules than are found
in ordinary society, and with the few stated rules enforced indifferently or idiosyncratically,
at best, by our Beloved Moderator - unless of course it bears upon his potential legal
liability, in which case the rules are enforced Very Strictly Indeed! - is something of a
paradise for sociopaths -- indeed, "A Sociopath's Paradise" would be an apt and
accurate subtitle for FU.
Unfortunately, a sociopath's paradise is hell for everyone else.
Thanks, Cary!
How to Help Sociopaths.
You cannot help a sociopath.
You cannot "talk it out" or reason with them.
They will not change.
But you
can make your life easier if you learn to recognize them, understand the way
they think and operate, and protect yourself.
Understanding what motivates a sociopath.
"Doing the right thing" doesn't motivate a sociopath.
They aren't driven by a desire to make the world a better place, or to help others,
or even "having fun" as you and I understand it.
Rather, sociopaths are motivated by having power over other people and using that power
to get what they want.
That might be the acquisition of even more power, and more control.
Or it might be the pleasure the sadist derives from humiliating and inflicting pain
on others.
Sadists? In Fairfax Underground??
Are you
ker-azy??!
Think, oh, I don't know - think about eesh and Chuck, and maybe you'll understand
what I'm talking about.
Maybe you'll understand how a sadist can thrive on a forum like Fairfax Underground,
so long as he's enabled - ignorantly, passively, or willfully - by someone like Cary.
Here is the bottom line: A sociopath like eesh will trick you and lie to you in order
to obtain the information he needs to gain power over you.
He'll send you a pm, and if you simply *click* on it -- BANG, there goes your personal
information.
But of course that's YOUR fault for lacking the technical sophistication to realize
the risk of clicking on pms in a forum where the Beloved Moderator begs you to
please
not be shy... but will not protect you in the event you overcome your shyness to the
extent of clicking on a pm.
Oh, no.
If you should happen to make such a blunder, it's not EESH's fault, it's YOUR fault.
Dummy.
I mean, isn't it obvious, from Cary's kind invitation not to be "shy" in the "Welcome"
thread, that you damn sure better be an expert on internet security before posting
here, regardless of how shy you may or may not be?
Didn't Cary mention something about that in his "word of welcome" ?
No?
Really?
How inconsiderate of him.
Regardless, our Beloved Moderator will NOT take down your personal information -
whether it is your name, address, or phone number - after eesh posts it, because,
oh...
Because free speech, or some other lame non-reason that Cary uses to justify his
culpable - despicable, I daresay - negligence to himself.
The bottom line is: you cannot count on Cary to protect you from sociopaths like
eesh, whom Cary refuses to ban from this forum, regardless of the frequency or extent of
the damage caused by eesh's misbehavior ("misbehavior" being a very mild way of
characterizing eesh's outrageous acts).
(Feel free to jump in here, Beloved Moderator, and tell me why I'm wrong.)
In cyberworld, then, as in the real world, you will have to learn how to protect
yourself........................ or resign yourself to have your ass kicked.
Because if you ask daddy Cary for a piece of bread, you might just end up with a
turd in your outstretched palm, or a knife through it.
Many, I can assure you, have had that experience.
Pro-Tip: Even if a sociopath takes an action that
appears to be good-hearted or
kind, there's usually an ulterior motive.
The three varieties of sociopaths.
As a baseline, all sociopaths are characterized by a lack of conscience.
In addition, they may demonstrate either one, or a combination, of the following
three traits:
-
Alienated sociopaths are characterized by their inability to love or be loved
-
Aggressive sociopaths are characterized by a consistent sadistic streak
-
Dyssocial sociopaths are characterized by an inability to abide by normal rules
Comment: Hmmm... A "consistent sadistic streak," an "inability to abide by normal
rules".
Remind you of anyone, folks?
How to Recognize a Sociopath: Personality Traits.
Comment: It is AMAZING how well these behaviors and attitudes match up with
FU's leading sociopath (of
course I mean eesh, lol...).
- Lack of remorse or guilt: a lack of feelings or concern for the losses, pain, and
suffering of victims; a tendency to be unconcerned, dispassionate, cold-hearted, and
unempathetic. Often demonstrated by a disdain for one's victims.
Strangely enough, this attitude is demonstrated as much by Cary as it is by eesh.
Funny how things work out that way,
isn't it, Cary?
- Pathological lying: can be moderate or high; in moderate form, it will be shrewd,
crafty, cunning, sly, and clever; in extreme form, deceptive, deceitful, underhanded
(eesh, underhanded??
no way!!), unscrupulous, manipulative, and dishonest.
- Callousness and lack of empathy: a lack of feelings toward people in general; cold,
contemptuous, inconsiderate, and tactless.
Ask Miz or Chuck about that - they might tell you, if they're not feeling too whipped
at the moment. (Thanks, Cary!)
- Superficially charming and gregarious: the tendency to be smooth, engaging, charming,
and slick. Not in the least shy, self-conscious, or afraid to say anything. Does not
get tongue-tied or experience stage fright.
For example, see eesh interview here:
http://wtvr.com/2014/03/24/henrico-sex-offender-house/
Discussed here:
http://www.fairfaxunderground.com/forum/read/40/1545029.html
- Criminal versatility: A diversity of types of criminal offenses (regardless if the
person has been arrested or convicted for them); taking great pride at getting away
with crimes.
Comment: Hmmm... Now whom have I seen, very recently, taking
great pride in
getting away with crimes?
Miz...?
Anyone...?
- Conning and manipulative-ness: the use of deceit and deception to cheat, con, or
defraud others for personal gain in the form of power, control, etc.
Oh, but wait, you
can't be implying that eesh has actually manipulated Our Beloved
Moderator, Cary, can you???!
No. Fucking. Way. Dude. Cary's like a god or something. He
can't be manipulated,
not by the likes of eesh, can he??
No way.
No. Fucking. Way.
- Craves Impunity: Calculating to create conditions to seem as guilt free as possible
from their sociopathic behavior.
- Grandiose self worth: a grossly inflated view of one's abilities and self-worth.
- Poor behavioral controls: expressions of irritability, annoyance, impatience,
threats [
threats??? NO WAY! This is *not* a threat!!!], aggression, and verbal
abuse; inadequate control of anger and temper.
- Failure to accept responsibility for one's actions: a failure to accept responsibility
for one's actions reflected in denial of responsibility, and an effort to manipulate others
through this denial.
Don't expect a sociopath to care about your feelings.
A sociopath does not care who gets used or hurt, because sociopaths have no
conscience or scruples against taking gross advantage of your kindness and goodwill.
A key characteristic of a sociopath is that they cannot comprehend that others have
feelings or can be hurt by their actions. Or, if they
do comprehend it, they simply
don't give a shit.
- Sociopaths don't change and suddenly become empathetic. No amount of "talking it
through" or giving the person extra chances is going to make him or her be a better
person.
- If you can distance yourself enough to realize it's not really about you, you will
be better able to resist and avoid the sociopath's stratagems.
To deal with a sociopath, think like one.
If you try to handle a sociopath like you would someone without a personality
disorder, you'll just end up getting frustrated or pulled back into the sociopath's
drama.
Once you recognize that someone is a sociopath (like eesh), you'll be able to see more
clearly what drives the person and what his weak points are.
- When you interact with a sociopath (like eesh), keep your guard up and resist the
temptation to talk it out or change him. You can't.
- Remember that sociopaths (like eesh) aren't motivated by love, but by power, so you
want to show them you won't give them power over you.
- Be skeptical about anything a sociopath (like eesh) tells you. Remember that sociopaths
are highly skilled at pushing people's buttons.
If you anticipate this before it happens, you'll be less likely to become a victim of
the manipulations of a sociopath (like eesh).
Never share personal information.
Never talk about your family, friends, business, finances, dreams, goals, and so on,
with a sociopath.
Sociopaths want to use you, your loved ones, your resources and your connections.
And cold, indifferent moderators like Cary, who imagine they're Free Speech Heroes,
will let them.
To prevent eesh from getting what he wants, follow one simple rule:
NO PERSONAL INFORMATION. EVER. Not by pm, not by email. Give no personal information
to anyone associated with Fairfax Underground.
Indeed, you would be wise not to open pms sent on Fairfax Underground.
Our Beloved Moderator has shown that HE DOES
NOT GIVE A SHIT IF EESH ENGAGES IN
PHISHING ON FAIRFAX UNDERGROUND.
Cary thus enables eesh's phishing.
That's unfortunate.
It's just one more sign, among many, that the noble idea of Fairfax Underground has
completely turned to shit.
Regardless, the point is simply this: Cary will not protect you.
This has been made abundantly clear from the recent unprovoked attack on Gerrymanderer2,
and Cary's failure to discipline eesh, who attacked Gerry, and bragged about it,
under his registered name rather than an anonymous handle (the method by which he
accomplishes most of his dirty work).
Every time you open a pm, you risk a phishing attack from eesh.
And if he obtains your personal information, he
will publish it, including your
name, address, and telephone number.
And Cary will
not remove that information, despite harrumphings to the contrary in
a thread where he furiously lambasted Alias and Misery.
Because free speech.
Or hypocrisy.
Or whatever.
I'm sure Our Beloved Moderator has conjured up some sort of semi-plausible, noble-sounding,
but ultimately lame and unsatisfactory reason for his non-intervention in the many and various
aggressions of eesh.
And I'm sure you ain't gonna see no furious lambasting of eesh by Our Beloved Moderator,
evah.
Eesh has gotten a pass for years, and there is no indication that is going to change.
It therefore follows: DON'T OPEN PMs sent via Fairfax Underground.
Unless you're ready and willing to have your personal information phished by eesh.
With Cary's blessing.
Avoid talking about what makes you happy or upset.
If a sociopath like eesh knows what you truly love and enjoy, or what makes you angry
and sad, he will use that information as a weapon against you.
- Avoid complaining, since any information about your weaknesses, things that cause
you mental, emotional or psychological pain, or anything that annoys, bothers or
hurts you, will be used by eesh as a weapon against you. With Cary's blessing, natch.
- If you let him know when your feelings are hurt, a sociopath like eesh will be more
likely to repeat the behavior so you'll get hurt again.
- Of course, if you can't really express yourself without being exposed to manipulation
by sociopaths like eesh, there's really not a whole lot to do on a discussion forum,
is there? Ah, well, just one of the many contradictions that have arisen when Cary's'
free speech principles have been taken out of the test tube and dropped into the water
supply of real life.
Keep your cards close to your chest.
If a sociopath knows your plans ahead of time, he or she might use that knowledge to
harass, belittle, discourage or humiliate you. If you plan to do something, don't
tell the sociopath about it ahead of time. Wait until you have completed your task
before sharing the information.
- For example, if you plan to change jobs, first take the exam, go to the interview,
get the new job and resign from the old job before you share the good news with the
sociopath. Once the event has already taken place, he or she won't be able to find a
way to keep you from doing well.
Sociopathy may seem like autism.
An autistic individual has trouble comprehending others' emotions, while sociopaths
understand others' emotions but do not care at all. Therefore, sometimes in a
private setting, a sociopath may appear to be similar to someone with autism, even
though the causes of their behavior are very different from that of autism.
You might have noticed, if you ever sat down with both eesh and Meade, how similar
their (somewhat weird) affect is.
Not that there's anything wrong with that.
Or eesh.
He was just built that way.
Sources:
http://www.wikihow.com/Understand-and-Help-Sociopaths
http://www.wikihow.com/Deal-With-a-Sociopath
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