Check my Amazon reviews for product recommendations. For anal sex, a lot depends on the size of your partner. My son for example has a very small penis which I can barely feel when he inserts it up my ass.
When my husband died in Nov 2017 I immediately set up profiles on dating sites and quickly learned that lubrication is a must, especially for the large black men I have become so fond of. My partners are often greasy and dirty, but at my age (late 60's) I still need additional lubrication. Being from West Virginia, Crisco is my lube of choice.
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