This is a sad story.. I knew this kid very well. I will now be 31. He is a year younger then I. We went to the same church together since we were children, his sister as well, .. My mother also was one of his after school teachers.. This was not a shock to any one who paid attention to his character at times when he was younger. He stuck to himself a lot, You could tell that something would eventually happen if He continued to go down the road he was leading as a child.. ..Growing up he was picked on a lot. He often picked on kids weaker then him, Maybe as a result of it being done to him.. I can remember when the church we were attanding, the new church was being built and we had to attend church at an elementry school. after service ended,He jumped out in front of my sister from the bushes in the front and started to bully her and kicked her.My sister ran in the school crying and came and told me to come I at the time has always been a protector of my sister and brother. I can remember jacking him up and throwing him on the ground and almost about to knock the lights out of him."Both" our parents got involved, and his mother was sorry for his actions. My sister was three years younger then him and she was around 9 years old at the time.. He never messed with her again after that!!! As we got older, he began to change actually in church. He would give great answers in Sunday school which made me view him different, we were around 16 and 17 at the time.. It seemed as if those dark ways of his had past him, he seemed like a bright person and once you get to know him,. I did not look at him the same as when we were children. Of course he was not the popular one, but everyone goes through that some times. I went through that stage, how ever I realize not everyone is strong as others. I always felt like there was something up with his parents "Mother"? Like maybe they had personal issues at home that reflected his ways as a child, they acted weird at times, out of the normal, even as a kid you could see that it was not a secret.. I knew growing up they lived better then alot of our friends, He also had a lot going for him as well, his sister as well..
Looking at this kid growing up you would have assumed he was going to be something great because of the private school he was attending, assuming he was getting good grades also even thinking of going to great schools for college.. and also his parents background and education. I grew up being picked on in elementary school as well until we moved to a better neighborhood, I thought I had it bad growing up in the city area of Alexandria where crime was always taking place, I grew up having to learn how to fight and protect myself because I was the oldest and I had a sister and brother to protect going to school, When I got to middle school and High school I became very popular because of playing football for my school team. I knew what it felt like to be picked on so, I never bothered Josh or picked on him, I knew that he was never an issue growing up, after the situation there was a level of respect that was formed when we saw each other at church of more wanting to be your friend then your enemy. He seemed to change as we got older for the good, how ever, I will not forget seeing him before he committed this crime.. I too had went through a down period after graduating where my friends had went to college for football, and I was supposed to go as well, but I didnt, It sent my world crumbling.I wanted to make my parents proud, but I was more critical on myself. So while all my friends were away in school I stayed behind working two jobs to buy a car and work on hopefully going to school. Well I remember coming to jiffy lube to get an oil change..I went inside the garage to see how the car was coming along, Well Guess who was working on my car. Josh? I could not believe my eyes!!!!!!!! It was shocking because I thought he would have been away in school somewhere, not at jiffy lube???? This was crazy, I felt weird about the whole situation, I began to talk to him, He told me that he had just dropped out of college, and his parents were not to happy? Well I can see that happening any parent would not be right? I could also see his parents not acting like every other parent as well. I was really concerned at this point about him being at jiffy lube, because like I stated before if you watch the signs or even peoples character something was not going to come out of this good, I felt it.... He seemed not like himself, Although he seemed happy to see me and catch up on things, a gloom came over him when he spoke about what was going on about college and everything, but it was not in detail.. He then said "Well it was good to see you, I have to get back to work now" I gave him a hand shake and that was it.. Seeing him there made me reflect that day on what I just had been through, I felt like I guess I am not the only one in life going through a bad time. How ever I began to feel more bad for him because this is not a guy you would catch working at jiffy lube??? AT ALL??? a few months later, my mother tells me the bad news of josh had done...I see his sister a year later in the mall.. she is doing her daily shopping. I still wonder how she took that, She did not seem to affected by it. She also was more concerned for her brother more then any thing.. Everytime I watch the show I.D and I see the killings of teens and parents, it always bring me to him and his face when I saw him last at jiffy lube, like something bad was going to happen then, as if he was going to take his own life???Reading the story on him, tells the dark side of him of what he did at home,, I guess as a teen you would not talk about that in front of peers who would find that weird and strange? I am now a pastor.. A young pastor.. I have always been the friend everyone talked to concerning problems and not dealing with my own at the time growing up as a teen, I was always there for alot of our peers in church. I never showed it growing up. Some times I wish I had more time to talk with Josh at jiffy lube. Just to find out more. Maybe be an ear or figure what was going on.. let him know that times get hard and just know that you are not alone.. I have thought about that for 10 years now.. I pray that he has asked for forgiveness from the Lord and I pray that he finds The Lord... This is actually the first time this year, I have read and searched on what he has done??? I did not want to read on the murders from him in the past..I always see his mothers face in my head, him as well as his sister..
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