Re: I’m 42 years old, nagging wife and two obnoxious under five kids in dc for the day. I’m wandering the woods with my dog and drinking beer.
Posted by:
SorryBro
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Date: February 19, 2018 09:02AM
Everyone feels down sometimes, and needs a break, reflect. That's good. But, overall, you have a job and you must do your job.
I agree with poster above: enjoy your kids. It goes by FAST. You think that you'll have them until 18 years old, but your relationship will really start to change significantly with them at 12/13/14, and by 15/16, they're gone. However, all 'n all, at that point, it hopefully will be a healthy time, when kids want to be independent, and to start to explore the world on their own. You will miss them a lot sooner than you think.
For now, place the kids in sports, house leagues are fine, playing sports, good family time, fun. (Side comment: Stay away from travel leagues run by parents because people around here are shameful, arrogant, and looney. If you do travel, make sure it's actually run by professionals with NO parent board due to cheating cliques, not good values, particularly in travel soccer). It gets out their energy, and hopefully teaches good values, lessons in life, how to win and lose, sportsmen/womenship.
The downside, however, is that you have loud-mouth-stay-at-home broads ("soccer moms") who get their frustrations out by yelling on the court/field. But the upside is that at least you can have your nagging wife join the Broad Squad, and bitch with them instead of at you. You should stay away from these women.
It is also important to take care of your marriage as well as your kids. It sounds like you married a stay at homer. It's a good lesson for others -- marry someone who is a fully developed, ambitious person, someone you can share a life with, have substantive/fun disagreements with, not someone who is looking to be dependent and whose goal is to live only in 4 square miles of her house and walk a dog.... (yay, ya... we know, you "love your kids," you "gave up a career" (hahaha!!) and your "busy" buying milk and "driving the kids everywhere" -- tired of patronizing these broads.)
Things will get better, I hope. As a Husband-Dad, it's your responsibility to raise these kids, teach them manners, keep them physically-emotionally healthy. After the youngest is 18, then you can re-evaluate your life and see what comes next. Until then, do your job, bro.