Re: Key to success with online dating in NOVA
Acadien qui fait rage
Date: September 10, 2017 11:05PM
True Story Wrote:
> Get worldly.
> women from the more ltin cultures. I am not
> talking about egg shaped El Salvadorans sitting at
> bus stops in Herndon.
> I prefer women from Latin cultures/with Latin
> physical characteristics. Dark hair, dark eyes,
> darker skin tones, curves (i.e.: waist to hip
> ratios that make you double take). College
> educated, professional, strong, etc.
You can do that, but you got to do a couple of things and understand a couple of things.
1. You NEVER refuse Abuelita's offer of something to eat. You can ask Abuelita only to give you a little bit, and she will give you only a little bit, but don't, under any circumstances say "No, thank you". And DON'T put salt, hot sauce or anything else on it. Eat it as she gives it to you. You can ask for a cup of coffee to wash it down, but don't ask for wine or beer. If it's offered, you may accept it, but only one glass of wine or one bottle of beer. And DON't be a wine or beer snob. If you're going to accept it (it IS OK to decline alcohol), drink the one glass of wine or one bottle of beer and say "thank you".
2. DO NOT call her "Mami" and don't expect her to call you "Papi".
3. For most of them, the Catholic church, even if they don't necessarily believe in it, is an important cultural thing. It's also an important means of socializing. You're going to spend a lot of time at church and church sponsored events.
4. Do not smoke in her home or her mother's home.
5. If you don't like Central or South American cuisine, you'd better start.
6. Learn Spanish. They're going to talk about you right in front of you, because they think you don't understand it. Still, she's going to expect you to make some effort to learn it. Start with learning to pronounce her name right. Work hard on your pronunciation as you learn the language. They don't like norteno pronunciation of their language.
7. Unless they're Mexican, if you want to make them angry, call them "Mexicans". Learn your geography from south of the Rio Grande to Tierra del Fuego (and learn the proper pronunciation of both) .
8. Don't assume they're here on a green card or are illegals. Many of them came here legitimately and are either naturalized or are going through the process.
Those rules will get you started, but there are more.
1. I was lucky my first Latin GF warned me about this. I told her it was the same in most parts of Italy, especially the south. The difference is that in Italy, they will offer you wine. In Italy, don't ask for water because the local water usually is not potable. If it is, they'll tell you the ducks drink water.
2. I always called my Latina GFs by their name and expected them to call me by mine.
3. Dad's from Belgium, Ma's from LaFayette, LA, so I'm already Catholic on both sides. I understand enough Spanish to figure out the Mass and conduct conversations with the priest.
4. I like a cig, pipe or cigar here and there, but I don't carry tobacco products on me, so no biggie, here.
5. I already prefer Central American cuisine to Mexican, so I'm good there. Learn the differences between the two.
6. I studied enough Spanish to be able to understand it and conduct a conversation. As a Francophone, I can try to make Spanish words out of French and get away with it most of the time. I speak Castillian Spanish with a French accent, which GFs always thought was cute. I surprised some of them, because they assumed because I'm white and was born in the US, I don't speak Spanish.
7. It's like calling a sub-Saharan African a "Nigerian". If you want to make most Latin people angry, call them "Mexican". If you want to make someone from anywhere in sub-Saharan Africa but Nigeria angry, call him a Nigerian. I already knew that.
8. Dad's an immigrant, so I already knew not to assume things about them.