Re: A Real AM User's Story - Probably Most are Just Like Me
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Fembot1234
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Date: September 04, 2015 10:31AM
I'm sticking to my original comments. There are all sort of dynamics involved in being married (in general) but also being married, for a long, long time that people who have not been married cannot begin to comprehend. Not to over-simplify things too much, but generally, I've found that people who take the moral high ground are generally the one's who have either not been married at all, are unhappy, or had relationships that didn't work out.
What happens in a marriage is between the two people within that union, and nobody else's business. Period. End of story. It's a private matter between two people. Infidelity only becomes fodder for the daily headlines when you're a person of some importance.
I don't expect anyone here to agree with me. I just cannot believe how unsophisticated, naive, and immature about relationships some people can be. Yes, I know that 'being faithful' is something learned relatively early in life. But I don't believe we are going to make the world a better place by exposing people for 'moral misdemeanors,' for the benefit of some people's smug self-satisfaction and gloating. It serves no purpose. People will continue to have affairs, and people will continue to try to find happiness and comfort wherever they can---when relationships aren't working out. There is no shame in trying to find happiness and fulfillment with another, if you go about it respectfully and discretely, b/c your spouse cannot have sex due to an illness, or other problem. By holding on and being faithful, we make ourselves miserable. We tell ourselves we're doing the right thing, but all we experience is unhappiness and all we have is contempt for the spouse who cannot fulfill our needs.
There can be a multiplicity of relationship dynamics which could cause someone to stray outside of their union. And everyone of those reasons is VALID. To tell someone that they need to stay in a relationship that is not working for them is to invalidate their needs, and make them feel less than human. . . The vast majority of people who seek clandestine relationships outside of their union, DO NOT want to hurt their spouse. . . . hence, the need for discretion.
The fallacy that everyone operates under is 'you cannot love more than one person at a time.' That we're all violating a major edict, by loving more than one person. But,the simple truth of the matter is--you can love more than one person at a time, and still be 'faithful.' And it doesn't have to be a big 'drama-fest.'
So have at it. Rip me apart if you want to. I'm not coming back here ever again, so be my guest. Call me every name in the book, and rip my argument to shreds. These websites just confirm all my worst fears about the world; that it's full of petty, immature, judging and insensitive people, who rejoice in other people's downfalls and stumbles, because they have inconsequential lives, themselves.
And speaking of inconsequential lives. . . .
These "hackers?" Probably don't even have hair on their balls, yet. They've had all of their so called 'relationships' over their cell phones. They wouldn't know the first thing about what comprises a 'long-term commitment', in ANY sense of that phrase. And now, THEY get to judge the rest of us?! And everyone is going to jump on the end of that bandwagon? And social media just drives the public's unnatural curiosity about other people's lives, and prurient interest in what happens in other people's bedrooms. . .
This world is F--ed up!!!