svennestle:
I'm going to put my own suspicions aside, and try to give you a little bit of information.
First, if you believe that this woman is truly being abused, you should check out this page:
http://www.nvmhi.dmhmrsas.virginia.gov/humanright.shtml
I assume you're not a family member, so your abilities to do anything specific to her case might be limited. I'm guessing that she doesn't have the resources to hire her own attorney, which is tragic - Virginia has a severely understaffed legal department for representation of people in competency hearings, and I believe that their biggest interest is to "rubber-stamp" the entire process.
There's a fairly high bar for forcing someone onto medication - I believe they need to be declared a threat to themselves or others. Unfortunately, once "medicating" has begun - in many cases - the patient will lose the capacity to defend themselves at all. I've seen people who were coherent before taking their perscriptions, and afterward word so "doped up" that they could barely speak. In such a case, I can't imagine how a real re-assessment of the patient's situation is even possible. The flip-side of the coin is that when the patient refuses medication, they're labeled as "non-compliant", and that's used against them, too.
With regard to "checking on patients": in many cases (including the intake wing), they're required to check-in at least once an hour to be sure that patients haven't tried to harm themselves. But, if you believe a male has gone further than required to check on a female, I strongly urge you to take up the matter with the contacts listed in the link above.
In any event, helping another patient in a case like this is a tricky affair at best. If you have the resources, I'd advise you to consult with an attorney, and possibly the patient's family.