FIRST OF ALL HOW CAN YOU SAY ALL OF THIS WITHOUT EVEN KNOWING ME PERSONALLY?? DO YOU KNOW HOW YOU LOOK BY CALLING YOURSELF A VICTIM AND NOT EVEN LISTING WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU? ARE YOU THEY DRUGGING YOU TOO, HOOKING YOU UP WITH MEN? OR JUST KEEPING YOU AROUND LONG ENOUGH TO COVER UP THE DEATH OF HER PARTNER! WAKE UP EDUCATE YOURSELF! TEST HER! SHE AND HER FAMILY ARE VERY SICK, AND ALL THEY KNOW HOW TO DO IS LINE UP THEIR NEXT VICTIM. WHY DON'T YOU TALK TO HER EX??
OR ARE YOU A NARCISSIST TO? WHO THRIVES ON HURTING OTHERS. CAN YOU IMAGINE BEING BEAT BY TIM AND TOLD YOU WILL BE PUNISHED THEN FORCED TO WALK OUTSIDE AND BEG MEN DRIVING BY TO GIVE THEM BLOWJOBS? TELLING ME THEY WOULD KILL MY FAMILY ETC.
IN 2008 SHE CAME LOOKING FOR ME TRIED TO ROB HIS HOUSE OUT OF MY CAR, AND GET ME TO LIE AT THE MAGISTRATE AND SAY HE HIT HER? HE TOO WAS DISCARDED AND HE MAY NOT EVEN BE ABLE TO TALK ABOUT THE GLIMSES OF EVIL HE FOUND IN HER. DENISE IS ELLEN'S SCAPEGOAT. If the victim ever attempts to make the narcissistic abuser accountable for being a decent human being, they will lash out in rage, blaming them for the abuse and stonewalling the victim into silence. They love to have the last word, especially for the language they’ve created.
Taking back our control and power from a narcissistic abuser means going to war with the language they use against us. This means seeking validating, professional help for the abuse we’ve suffered, detaching from these people in our lives, learning more about the techniques of abusers, finding support networks, sharing our story to raise awareness and finding the appropriate healing modalities that can enable us to transcend and thrive after their abuse.
We can channel this experience of abuse for our highest good and for the greater good. We just have to be willing create in its place what I call a “reverse discourse”—a new language and a rewriting of the narrative that instead lifts us, motivates us, inspires us and revives us by replacing the narcissist’s cutting words with our own powerful truth.
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