Re: Braddock Road Lacrosse
Posted by:
Soo
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Date: July 30, 2013 09:27AM
I just want to share that the BRYC Lacrosse program sucks A**. For real. The people who run the program are a bunch of catty men. They sit around and bitch all day long. After experiencing blatant racism against my son who played soccer led by my husband on an all-star team for many years, a volunteer position, by the way, my son was kicked off the "recreational" team because it was his first season, and they were building an "A" Team. Nothing stating that was ever posted on the BRYC site. EVER. In February of 2013, after overhearing a group of boys shout racial epithets at my son (who is not a crybaby, has played hockey for 6 years, could kick anyone of these sucker's butts) who spent an hour really upset about being called derogatory Asian epithets, I shot an email to the president of BRYC:
Dear Mr. Merkel and Mr. Sloan,
I am writing you in an attempt to understand exactly what BRYC's coaching policies are. My husband and I enrolled our son in the BRYC Boys' RECREATIONAL Lacrosse Program for this Spring season. Although my son has played soccer for BRYC for seven consecutive years, and my husband coached his team for many years, even taking them to All Stars several times (finalists), I persuaded my son to try something new, against his objection. I genuinely thought that although he has never played lacrosse before, his years of hockey and soccer experience/training would help.
I received an unsettling email from Coach Sloan yesterday afternoon (below), and after thinking about the situation, I decided that something didn't quite add up. Not only is my son now unable to enroll in BRYC soccer with my husband as a volunteer coach, but he's missed out on enrolling for Spring hockey, too. I would never, ever have signed him up if I had known that coaches would be allowed to "handpick" registrants for a RECREATIONAL team. Based on your advertising on your website, which I've copied below, BRYC clearly states that Recreational Lacrosse is for players looking to develop lacrosse skills. There is no disclaimer stating that Recreational Lacrosse was for skilled players only. Furthermore, the proceeding paragraph describes BRYC's Travel Lacrosse program and states it's limited to competitive lacrosse and those aged 13 and 15. My son is TEN.
My husband, a competitive soccer player, worked with children of all developmental and experience levels, and from what I understand, it was his job to work with all of his players to help them understand the game, unless he coached a travel team. During many seasons, he worked with children that had never played soccer before but ended up training them so well that he took them to ALL STARS and encouraged each one to try out for the Travel Program. He stated that he neither had the authority nor the discretion to "handpick" players in an effort to "stack" his team with only experienced players, and further, he believed that it went against BRYC's mission statement, the coaching policies and the organization's policies. If these are the guidelines that BRYC endorses, how on earth is Coach Sloan able to handpick his players and ask our son to leave his team? Isn't it within the purview and duties of a recreational coach to help his/her players develop adequate playing skills? What on earth is an "A" team for a recreational program?
Another thing I wanted to point out is that from what my husband observed during practice, several players decided to gang up against our son and yell at him, even calling him degrading names for not playing as well as them. Coach Sloan was in absolute earshot of these offensive remarks and did nothing. This is absolutely inappropriate, and I will certainly let other parents know what occurred if I don't receive a proper explanation for these issues. Our son does not cry, but that day, he came home with tears in his eyes from practice. As his parents, we cannot standby and condone this type of behavior, and we have an affirmative duty to make sure it's on the record and doesn't continue.
BRYC Lacrosse
BRYC offers both recreational and travel lacrosse programs.
Recreational Lacrosse: Boys and Girls K-12th grade
BRYC Recreational ("Rec") Lacrosse is offered to players looking to develop lacrosse skills, play in a competitive environment, and enjoy a weekly local game. BRYC provides players the opportunity to play against BRYC teams and other local club Rec teams. The Rec program includes two practices a week and one game a week on Sunday afternoons in the spring. All coaches are volunteers and are often parents. BRYC encourages parents to volunteer and share the excitement of lacrosse firsthand.
Winter Clinics are offered monthly, December through February. Spring season teams form in February and practices begin in March.
Travel Lacrosse: Currently fielding boys U13 and U15 teams.
(All players must reside in Fairfax County.)
BRYC Travel Lacrosse is offered to players seeking to develop higher level lacrosse skills in a competitive envinronment. BRYC provides experienced coaches to players with an advanced skill level who seek of participating in travel leagues and tournaments. The travel program requires a greater time commitment from participants for practices and games.
BRYC's lovely response:
Steve Bergstrom
Wed 2/27/2013 3:49 PM
Inbox
While I'm sorry about your son's experience, your lack of compassion towards the good intentions and good works of these very dedicated men, volunteering their time for the betterment of our youth is appalling.
Your email is completely self centered and goes beyond reasonable discourse. Shame on you for impeaching so many good people volunteering their time to a boys and girls club.
Quite frankly I don't want to associate with mean people like you.
Sent from my iPhone
Nevermind that my husband coached for years for this team volunteering his time to help children develop and nurture their love for soccer. This guy has anger issues, and he needs to get his iPhone taken away from him. Who has this much lack of self-control? He's coaching our kids!?
After being promised a refund, it's now almost August, and I have yet to receive one. I will tell you that the clucking hens (men, by the way) at BRYC inadvertently copied my husband on an email stating that the only way to get rid of the "nuisance" (me, for bringing this crap to their attention) was to finally issue a refund. Never mind the crap we endured or the mindless dribble coming from the coaches and the kids they were coaching, we were the nuisance.
Non-profit my ass.
Sorry, but the lacrosse coaches in general, have proven to be untrained, unprofessional jerks. The fact that these guys are on the board, too, is reprehensible.