I want anal sex with my wife. She hates the thought.
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Backdoor husband
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Date: July 29, 2014 05:04PM
First of all, we have done it in the past. She HATES IT!! She'll say that her vagina must not be tight enough and that's why I want it. She thinks that after having two children, it's not, but she's not the same as he was 4 years ago and I'm not either. It has nothing to with that.
No, I just like it.
She says my sexual desires scare her. That she doesn't want to feel degraded that way. That I'm always asking for it. I've brought it up only twice in the past year. But I've never told her she doesn't love me if she won't do it.
She certainly shows me appreciation for the things I do for her, but she says,"I don't want it. Plain and simple." I don't know what to do.
I can't understand that. Girlfriends previous to marrying her did it all the time, and usually on their recommendation. (And no, I'm not considering cheating and going back to them. Most of them are married anyhow.)
She says she loves me and appreciates what I sacrifice for our family, but that's not even it. I don't feel some sense of entitlement, just a desire for something different.
I don't want to pressure her to give me something that makes her feel dirty and wrong, but I really want this and really want her to be okay with doing it.
Help please!
Any advice?